I'm new to this community but this website has prompted a lot of new research into my sexuality. So thank you a lot for that! I really love that the truth about our sexual vitality is slowly being conveyed to the masses. It's funny because techniques for conserving our bodily resources have been around for thousands of years, yet men in the west seem to be deprived of this information due to the strictly pro-creative angle that Christianity has taken in our culture.
And that's what I'm posting to ask about. A lot of the wording on this site, and in people's posts, makes it seem like orgasm is the problem. It's my understanding, both in theory and in practice, that for men, orgasm and ejaculation are separate events. The orgasm occurs about 10-15 seconds before ejaculation. It's the orgasm that contains all the vital energy, which if channeled in a different way, can really revitalize the body, mind, and consciousness. Whereas, if you ejaculate each time you orgasm, your body expels vital nutrition and sexual energy.
So I'm just writing this post to get some clarification. I do believe that excessive ejaculation depletes the body and the mind, especially the neuro-receptors in the brain that deal with reward. But my personal experience, and 2,000 years of Daoism demonstrates that non-ejaculatory orgasm *does not* deplete the body. It actually rejuvenates it. It's because ejaculation is the BODY'S reward for passing on its genes, thus the dopamine kick comes into play and then tapers off. But with non-ejaculatory orgasm, you are triggering the bio-electric pleasure without the final dopamine kick... so it can go on and on indefinitely (multiple orgasms), until you decide to stop. This has been my experience.
Likewise, pure abstinence is not the solution. The sexual energy build and builds, and needs some place to go. Self-pleasuring and sexuality are not optional... these energies need a place to go as our creative human potential. Also, long-term abstinence results in the penis being retracted into the body, which is what a lot of middle aged and senior men experience. So... I don't think simply avoiding sexual pleasure is the answer.
The thoughts of this community are most welcome. I don't think masturbation or frequent sex are necessarily the problem, so much as the way the sexual energy is channeled. Instead of expelling it, you can redirect it to have spiritual experiences. This is what many cultures have espoused and done for a very long time. I agree that porn is problematic... not only because it distorts our image of what is sexually desirable, but because the act of looking at porn distracts you from your own body, its rate of arousal, and where the energy is going. It also de-motivates men from engaging with women and each other because their desire has already been quelled on the internet. One of the many problems of our digital age.
Thanks so much for reading!!