A couple of years ago, Daryl (who posts from time to time on this site) suggested that my wife try working with a jade egg. When we finally decided to get one, she worked with it off and on for only a few months – interestingly, something quite incredible eventually began to happen.
In order to keep the sexual energy flowing between us, I’ve always had to actively stimulate her clitoris with direct penis contact – which helps her stay lubricated and loose – for a time she would have to “tap out” every time the sensations started to bring her too close to orgasm. When she would get to that point, instinctively, my penis would pulse energetically inside her. It was like a wave of energy which was similar to what Daryl describes and has relayed to me in private conversations – “the man becomes a sender”.
Interestingly, within the past few weeks, since the muscles in her vagina have become so deliciously toned by the jade egg, she began (what she calls) “nursing” on my penis. This was quite a revelation to me because it is as if the sexual gender roles reversed. For example, when a woman breastfeeds an infant, she is the passive one while the baby does the work – the baby sucks as if its’ life depends upon it.
One night we were watching an old Attenbourgh documentary about an orphaned baby squirrel whose mother had been killed. A man found it and tried to dropper feed it but it was too weak. As it happened, there was a momma cat with a new batch of kittens in the house, so the guy tried to see if the cat would nurse the squirrel. Surprisingly, she did. She accepted the rodent which grew up with the kittens – they all accepted him as a brother and taught him rough and tumble cat play.
This obviously inspired my wife!
For so long, men have been the active force during sex. But oddly, when a man can hold his vibrant penis inside the woman, he becomes the passive nurturing one, and she CAN take on a more active role - like an infant – sucking – flexing the vaginal muscles like a baby on a teat, drawing in the sexual energy directly from him.
My gosh, I never realized what a powerful experience this could be! Especially as a man – because there was often a lot of awkwardness in sexual relations in my past experience with women. This kind of experience is empowering.
Every few minutes or so, we change positions, but this “nursing” continues until she is “filled”. Afterward, we get up and have coffee or tea, sit in our chairs and listen to my Karezza – Music for Lovers CD (which I’ve mentioned before is available for free down load at www.aural432.noaus.org/music.htm).
The energy seems to subtly pulsate throughout our bodies the rest of the day – keeping us emotionally and mentally connected. It is such a nurturing and healing experience.