This is coming from a person who has very limited actual experience with girls. Does fantasizing about making out with a girl/bonding with a girl bad for recovery. I read somewhere that fantasizing about porn is bad, so whenever a thought of porn has come to my mind, I have quickly defused it. However, I believe fantasizing about what I actually want, which is connecting with girls, is not disruptive to my reboot. before I started rebooting, I never had thoughts of making out with girls or bonding with girls, so I think fantasizing about this may be beneficial. If fantasizing about porn activates porn neural pathways, maybe fantasizing about connecting with girls activates new neural pathways? I read somewhere on this site that this kind of fantasizing is good for people with limited experience with girls. One thing that encourages me is that I can fantasize for a few seconds about making out with a girl and get a little horny, but in previous attempts at quitting PMO whenever I fantasized even for a tiny bit about porn, I would get extremely horny and this often lead to a relapse, but this type of fantasizing doesn't stimulate me as much. What are your thoughts on this?
Also, I'm on day 14 and so far I'm doing all I can to block out porn images from my mind. But this one video that I watched multiple times in the past keeps popping in my head. I don't let it pick up much energy and think of something else, but it is relentless. I keep thinking that I'm fantasizing about porn when in reality, these thoughts just randomly pop into my head and seem to be a way for my mind to get me to give in. Is this considered fantasizing? I never actually sit there and let the thought take over me, is fantasizing bad when it only lasts for like 2 seconds? It is enough to get me an erection, but it fades.