Tad Worried

Submitted by Jack Straw on
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Hello all,

Firstly I would like to say how much of a boost this website has been, thanks to all.

Right, I am not sure this is the correct place but hopefully some of you could advise me.

I am a single 26 year old, and the last 12-18 months started to rely more and more on porn. I noticed it got to the stage where I couldn't really get aroused without porn, even my imagination wouldn't work. The penny finally dropped about three months ago when I stopped getting aroused watching porn. The last year or so I have struggled with an erection when drunk, but never had this problem when sober, the opposite in fact. I decided, after reading through the numerous positive threads on here to try and go for the three months blank. This site has been fantastic for me, so thanks again. Anyway, I suffered the flatline for about three weeks around week 5-8, but I am now on week 12, and although my drive is back, my erection is basically the same, very weak. I have masturbated once, last week, but it was wrong, and not only did I regret it, it was not a strong erection. I had one wet dream last week. I have a lot of morning erections but the vast majority are relatively weak, although some have been rock solid.

Basically, I am after advice. Is it normal for me to still be like this after three months. I have my libido back, but I am really worried, like I know a lot of you have been, hence why I am here. I feel I am in a better place to what I was three months ago, with regards to erection, but it is still weak. Is this normal? What would you advise? Another couple of months of no PMO before I see progress? Try harder to stop fantasising to force an erection? I think I just need some reassuring that three months may not be long enough and it could take longer. I hope.

I would really appreciate any advice!

Thanks all.

it's probably a bad idea...

...to try to force an erection. And not very effective. Erections are from relaxation. My advice would be to really try to avoid fantasy and sexual thoughts as much as possible, 100%. And not to masturbate for awhile longer also. A lot of guys don't get the repaired new selves they want until they get rid of fantasy. Fantasy keeps the dopamine sex train running because the brain's reward centers don't know or care the difference between fantasy and porn. 

However, the best thing possible may be to begin becoming really active with real three dimensional women. Touching and interacting with real women at this point may be exactly what you want and need more than anything else.

I do have a question. What happened that in the more recent past caused you to begin to rely upon porn so much? 


Thanks a lot for your reply, it makes a lot of sense to me.

To answer your question, I don't really know. I was never a big porn watcher, until the last 12-18 months where it developed into pretty much a daily occurrence. Thinking about it, maybe it is because I have been single for so long, maybe I just searched it out to fill a void. Which would make sense as it ties in to what you have said. Thank you so much for your advice, I will try to avoid all sexual thoughts, and try and get myself a girlfriend! Thanks again!