unusual effects of porn addiction?

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Hello everyone,
This is my first post ever about this subject, but I think I am finally able to talk about it.

I was going out with my now ex-girlfriend for 2 years before we broke up, during this period I've never had any sexual problem (be it ED or PE), I am easily aroused and I used to last double the amount she lasted. During this period also, I wasn't addicted to porn, and masturbated occasionaly (PMO).
After we broke up, I took confort in porn unfortunately, I PMOed regularly and even started going to massage parlours with happy endings. This went on for about 6 months, after which I got back with the same girl.

When we got back together, I didn't stop PMO nor the massage parlours because I was hooked (but reduced the frequency). The sex was awful with my girlfriend (or at least it was for her) I didn't have a problem with getting it up (except maybe a couple of times) but I couldn't last for over a minute.
The relationship lasted for a year, during which, I am not proud to say I didn't not even once make her orgasm from penetration, The same girl that I was giving multiple orgams 6 month earlier. I am sure the sex was a big part of the breakup the second time.

Now two month after the breakup, I know that I am addicted to porn (and happy endings) and it is been four days today that I have stopped PMO (also stopped masturbation without porn) and happy endings.

However opposed to others that posted about their addiction, I don't have an erectile problem, and I am always turned on by hot girls I see on the street. I should probably mention that I am 27 yrs old.
The only problem that I have is PE, even masturbating to porn I don't last for more than min.

Do you think that after a successful reboot from porn and massage parlours I could get rid of my PE?

I would appreciate any feedback or comments from you guys,
Thanks for reading,
boom

--Edit
I should also add that I have been PMOing from around age 17 but not at the same frequency as the past year and half, and although it did not affect my sexual performance at first, I think it did contribute a lot to what I am today.

Sorry for what you've been through

There's obviously a lot more to male sexuality than researchers have uncovered.  Did you see this article? Men: Does Frequent Ejaculation Cause a Hangover?

As for PE...yes some guys have seen improvement from a reboot. On the other hand, some are really trigger-happy for a short while after they finish rebooting. Others have delayed ejaculation for a while after they finish rebooting.

In short, brains come back into balance differently.

Did you check throught the rebooting accounts at the bottom of this page to pick out the ones that mention PE? There are probably other relevant accounts, but the ones with PE in the title would be a good place to start.  http://www.yourbrainonporn.com/rebooting-accounts

Also see this FAQ: http://www.yourbrainonporn.com/is-my-premature-ejaculation-related-to-my...

People see lots of different symptoms as they overconsume porn, and recovery also has a lot of variation...depending on what went out of whack in the first place.

It's definitely worth a try. Good luck.

You might also post your question here: YOURBRAINREBALANCED.COM

Thank you

Thank you for your suggested articles, I was able to find only one thread about PE, but the poster also had ED.
Today I am on my day 6, still thinking almost all the time about porn and sex, but I force myself not to, and since it is getting very hot outside, I am getting aroused by almost every girl I see, not erections, but thoughts and fantasies, I hope this will change with time.
I think it is easier to start rebooting in winter :)
thanks again

Absolutely!!

I know from experience the more I masturbate to porn, the harder it becomes for me to last long. I just did a 10 day long total abstinence run. Unfortunately I relapsed to some sexy videos, but for the first 2 sessions I could not believe at how long I could go for. After about a 3 days, it was really hard to go long and PE was a real problem. Cut out PMO, exercise, clean up ur diet a bit and you will be more than satisfied with the fruits of your labor. Have a great day.

Sounds like you might have a case of this

Seriously, however, give it time. Brains go out of balance in lots of ways with addiction-related changes, and not all the changes happen...or recover...in the same order. Here's a serious article that will help you understand why some people may experience more "desensitization" and others more "sensitization." Either way, time and consistency seem to let the brain heal itself.

Why Do I Find Porn More Exciting Than A Partner?

the secret is always the same, IMHO

it's removing performance pressures.

Starting our really slow.

Lots of cuddling and bonding behaviors before you go for intercourse with a woman.

This has its own huge rewards that are hard to imagine. And your ability to last or not won't be an issue if you don't have the pressure to perform. PE will leave you when it leaves you.

Actually it is quite easy to do soft penetration so even if you come, you can have intercourse with a soft penis. This is quite fun on its own if you aren't pressuring yourself to have another erection.

There are instructions

in that book. Basically, it's like normal sex, with lots of affectionate kissing and touching. Then, when ready, the woman gently grasps your lubricated not-fully-erect penis and "pops it into" her vagina, and you make the connection into a mutual meditation. No performance pressure on either partner...which turns out to be excellent therapy for any performance jitters.

Get the book and play with the ideas. We did...because we had never heard of it until reading the Richardsons' books.  It's good for some giggles anyway...although it tends to lead to some serious erections as a rule in our experience. Wink

Almost identical story to yours!

Hey man I'd really love if you could reply to this as you have an almost identical story to mine.

I have been in a relationship with my girlfriend for 2 years now and literally the entire time we have had great sex where we both climax at the same time almost every time (shes very in touch with her body).

For some reason the last 6 times we have had sex I have prematurely ejaculated every single time and someone told me that this could be the result of porn addiction. I haven't told my girlfriend about the PEing yet (I've just been powering through until she comes) because I don't want to bug her out and put more pressure on me.

But your story really rings true with me so I'd like to ask you a few questions:

Did you have to give up masturbating completely or just porn to fix your problem? (If you have managed to fix it)

I really don't think I'm going to have a problem giving up porn, but I don't really want to give up masturbating mainly because it's awesome and secondly I have heard that not masturbating can lead to prostate cancer. So I was thinking instead of fapping to porn 3 times a day like I do now, I would masturbate to my imagination once a week. Do you think this would work?

I'd really love to hear back from you mean you're one of the only people on the net who's story is similar to mine!

thanks for getting back to me!

Hey mate thanks for getting back to me,

Thanks for recommending the articles they were a good read, but I still can't really find a straight answer as to whether I should give up masturbating all together or just back it down to a reasonable level. Is it better to show moderation with these sort of things or is it better to cut it out completely?

Not having any ED issues whatsoever

Hey mate thanks for getting back to me,

I'm not having any ED issues whatsoever but after reading all this literature on what staying off porn / fapping can do for my concentration / procrastination etc I'm pretty keen to give it a red hot go! I'm still gonna bang my girlfriend though haha if she had to go 90 days without it she'd cut off my junk and use it herself! It's really quite exciting actually haha the idea of wanting to fap so bad that I do REAL activities to keep my mind off it!