Why I practice Karezza (Damon)

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loversSince I was a young boy, I have always had an immense fear of ejaculation and orgasm.  I do however love sex and I love to pleasure others. A growing number of men and women are giving up conventional, climax-oriented intercourse for a different type of lovemaking.

Karezza, which is derived from the Italian word carezza, meaning caress, stays far from the edge of orgasm, instead putting the emphasis on attachment and affection, not climax.

Many couples are finding that the technique of karezza has helped heal their marriages, inject more spark into their sex lives, shed porn addiction, and even cure sexual dysfunction.

For me it enables me to have sex and continue love making for as long as possible without the need of release.
It is not easy for a man to practice Karezza, as he constantly faces the wanting for release and so it takes many years of commitment to being pure.
Making love to a person with no orgasm or release planned is a truly magical and enlightening experience for both the man and the woman.
It is the same with masturbation, if you masturbate to give yourself pleasure, refraining from climax makes it so much more exciting.

In the “passion cycle of orgasm,” the hormone dopamine rises in anticipation of sex and then plunges after orgasm, creating a sort of biochemical “hangover.”

In men, this hangover happens almost immediately after ejaculation and for women it can take up to two weeks before the brain returns to its equilibrium.  For me, not having an orgasm at all, keeps me fresh, horny, alive and alert.  This is perfect for me and my partner.

Simply stated, Karezza is the practice of gentle, sexual intercourse, without the goal of orgasm. When a man can control his ejaculation, satisfaction is quickly attained because sex lasts longer, erectile dysfunction is often healed and fatherhood becomes a matter of choice, rather than an accident. In my experience, the secret to success is deciding that you want to give up the habit of masturbation altogether.  As long as it is still an option in your mind, there remains a nagging temptation to “give in” to an orgasm, especially whenever you feel stressed or happen to shift into the “rough waters” of sexual arousal while making love to a woman.

Many men really believe that it is harmless to masturbate as much as they want. This is one of the biggest fallacies perpetuated in the modern world today. Ejaculating too often, particularly every day, is the surest way to weaken and diminish your sexual strength. You sacrifice a tremendous amount of energy each time you do it, only to get three seconds of pleasure. The older you are, the worse it gets. At age 20 a man may very well be an endless fountain of semen, but by age 40 and beyond he would be wise to conserve as much energy as possible if he wants to continue having satisfying bonding sex with women!

Another thing, if you really care about women, there are other reasons why you might want to consider giving up ejaculating. Many women today suffer from recurring and painful bladder and yeast infections and Barpholins cysts after intercourse and have to regularly use antibiotics.  Drugs  can upset the natural balance of the body, causing the overgrowth of yeast.  What most lovers don’t realize is that the cause is due to a regular drenching of the vaginal tissues with male seminal fluid. Semen is a sugar-like medium, designed to protect and nourish sperm cells as they travel toward the female egg. And where do yeasts thrive best? In sugary, dark, moist places, like vaginas.

So how do I start? 

Well for men,

So once you’ve educated yourself and made a firm decision that you want to learn Karezza and move away from masturbation and fertilization-driven mating sex, the first step is to limit ejaculation to no more than twice a month. After six months or so you’ll find that you have less and less desire to unconsciously deplete your life-essence by continuously emitting semen, especially when you have no intention of impregnating a woman.

Eventually you may discover that regularly masturbating and ejaculating are not that important anymore.  Then it becomes your choice whether or not you want to continue. But twice a month is probably the safest upward limit if you wish to keep doing it and remain healthy, youthful and vibrant. Many Karezza men report that the desire for orgasm and ejaculation completely goes away after a few months and is no longer an issue.

When masturbating, you can learn how to pleasure yourself with no need for orgasm.

It is not easy at first, and you may feel very uncomfortable not ejaculating, but you do get used to it.  It will make you a better person, and a better lover.

Try it.


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Note: It makes me kind of sad that Damon chose this path out of fear of ejaculation, but I guess I shouldn't be judgmental.