Submitted by alex_is_bonding on

A few years back I was introduced to Thomas Campbell's "My Big Toe." In it, he discusses how fractals exist at every level of reality. The most basic fractal is evolution, which he colorfully states as "grow or die." I've been thinking of the fractals that exist in bonding. I've come to realize that if I want to experience a deeper bond with my wife, I need to bond with everything. My morning coffee, the jazz music that I listen to on Pandora, the sun coming through the leaves, the work that I do, and even the movements of my body through physical space.


Submitted by karezza-lover on

Being new here I begin to learn what´s new and maybe alo contribute some day.
Practising karezza since at least 60 years, I am 86, and I think that my wife is happy to always have a "fresh" husband at her side.
The health-effects on body, skin and all the rest of well-beeing seems to be very positive to both of us.

This only as short introduction, and thanks to Marnia´s help I can now participate here from time to time.

Germany sends best wishes to all everywhere


A thought-provoking Book and Review

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Submitted by blissed on

In the book "Foreign Sperm" by Donald Tyler, some interesting questions are raised regarding the potential of sperm. The heart of Tyler's theory is that foreign sperm, any sperm into a woman, and another male's sperm into a man, cause diseases.

If Tyler is correct on any point, the absence of ejaculation during karezza may be a huge benefit to long term health.

Is There More than One Purpose for the Clitoris?

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A recent expression that the clitoris has one purpose only is as follows: "A woman's body includes a number of super-hot erogenous zones, but you might say many of those are sort of, well, incidental. Not the clit. It's there for fun. Yup, that’s right. The clitoris is the only part of the body designed solely for pleasure. So, while other body parts used for sexual pleasure have at least one other purpose to them, your clit is just there to get you off."

My Wife's Clitoris

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In some circles where common sex is adored, all it takes is for someone to say, "clitoris", another to say, "8000 nerve endings", and everyone within earshot will genuflect in complete agreement.

At our house, my wife's clitoris has been pretty neglected, and yet, in the last five years, she (with my help) has enjoyed more sexual pleasure (that often takes her breath away) than the prior 65 years of her life.

Have You Named Your Sex Organs?

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From the beginning of our marriage we have taken a reverent but playful approach to our lovemaking.

For the first couple years we alternated back and forth between "wand of light/sacred space" and "penis/vagina" when talking about our sex organs. Then we favored "penis/vagina" as somewhat easier to use for every day. With Karezza, our love life is always so positive that we talk about our lovemaking and sex organs a lot.

A New Position -- WOW!! ....and the Lessons Learned

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Usually I wait for a while to report a new breakthrough that we have.

I like to make sure that I clearly understand what's happening and if it's repeatable. Yesterday morning was so amazing, and it builds on our previous experiences with deep relaxation, so I'm sharing it right away. As I shared in my last post, we usually wake each other up gently in the scissors position. We did scissors this morning with many pleasurable moments together.