Visit our sister-site, Your Brain On Porn.
These pages of this recent book (The Brain That Changes Itself) by psychiatrist Norman Doidge are very relevant to porn addiction, and also, if you keep reading, to how and why oxytocin (connection with others) can help reset the brain:
Several weeks ago I found iliasm.org (I Live In A Sexless Marriage), an active forum with about 1200 members, 40% women and 60% men, who are not getting enough sex in their marriages. Their definition of "sexless marriage" is one in which there is sex less than 10 times per year.
Only about 5 of the members have reported recovering from the sexless marriage status by increasing the sex frequency to an acceptable level. The usual advice is "get a divorce" or "outsource" (find a Friend With Benefits).
I used to post on this site regularly (I'm going to say 3-5 years ago) and felt both motivated and inspired to fight my ongoing battle with pornography.
Yeah, so awhile back, this site and yourbrainonporn, diverged..
So this site is more about the karezza / lovemaking / relationship angle
And I don't know if it is right to say this here or not but I started here and always felt more comfortable voicing myself and innermost feelings or whatever here..
I'm at a loss
Someone who was a childhood friend of mine, yeah, haven't talked to this person for years and years.., but yeah, well this person was arrested for sexual abuse..
Hi everyone! I am a long time lurker at this site, and have read Marnia's fantastic Cupid's poisoned arrow book. I don't intend to come here to moan about being single. Because my last relationship was emotionally traumatic, it has taken me some time to begin to heal. I think I am finally coming back to "myself" after 1.5yrs of feeling I had lost my soul when it ended with my ex.
Transcendental Meditation is a superset of all these tools described here for balancing and rebalancing both physical and mental states with an intention to reach higher level of maturity for sustainable enjoyment including both physical or mental one.
TM is just a technique like karezza that progressively provides awareness of balancing and rebalancing all unbalanced states both in physical and mental domain.
Hi there! It’s been quite a while that I participated in this forum. Part of the reason is that, for most of the past couple years, I lived at a Christian center in the US, and the internet connection there filters out this website.
Hi all,
I had been a porn addict almost whole my life.i was also a masturbation addict. I have a problem of premature premature.I am clean 50 days now.recovering.I have lesser intrest in girls nowadays.though thats emotional issue rather. I have been doing kegels and jelqing since few days. The morning woods are back with occasional erections in a day. i get 80-90 percemt erections mostly. am not sure but could i opt for masturbation/orgasm someday sooner? How long should i wait? This te honestly without porn.i am fi this time.
So it's been awhile since I've posted on this site. In the three years since I last blogged I've had a lot of victory over masturbation and the inevitable fallout. In late 2013/2014 I went for 5 months without bringing myself to ejaculation. It was a long hard road and since then I'll occasionally go for 2-3 month dry spells. I was also in a relationship where I experienced the power of affectionate touch. Such peace and contentment....and the incredible sleep I would have after I would cuddle with my sweetheart.
I suppose it's a form of bonding behavior given limitations on attention.
http://nymag.com/scienceofus/2016/07/easy-way-to-have-more-sex.html