A German reader recently shared some material from an article by Loil NeidhÃ¶fer. He roughly translated and summarized some of it as follows:
What Reichians can learn from the Taoists (and other higher sexual cultures of mankind) is the following: the genital orgasm is not the optimal sexual reaction of the organism; it is a conditioned, learned reaction. It is one way of handling sexual energy, a short-term one that serves reduction of stress and devitalizes the orgasm in the mid- or long-term. It speaks to the insufficient wisdom of our Western cultures regarding sexual things that such a degenerating and uninspired sexual practice could become the unquestioned norm for sexual behavior....
We've been trying the Exchanges and are constantly in awe of our connection. She has slept over every night and we just melt into each other. The sexual energy is still strong, but it is more comfortable than it was, and has settled down quite a bit. We are doing very well at staying in the giving, nurturing space and keeping that as the big intention. We have both had some past trauma stuff come up and have been able to hold space for each other.
We are just on the same page with so many things....we are able to balance the fun/sexual/serious energies and have them blend together naturally...We just feel totally blessed by each other and think they are totally awesome. We are able to love unconditionally. We also feel that it is kinda like we get to find out what it is like to be in relationship with ourselves. We are sleeping less than we used to, but are not tired...actually we are feeling more energized. She picked up an odd fungus on her trip last summer and it has been coming and going...but the last week it has gotten a ton better...I credit the oxytocin, which we are buzzing with all day from being charged up from spending the night together.
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Gary and Marnia will be in giving the following presentations in Australia:
Sunday, April 2nd, Sydney, Australia "Why Intimacy and Companionship Can Heal" Natural Health Society
Saturday, April 8th, Byron Bay, Australia "Metaphysics Meets Neuroscience in the Bedroom"
Dopamine agonists, now being marketed as sexual enhancement drugs, have also been used to counter restless leg syndrome and Parkinson's side effects. In this article, a woman with no history of gambling who took a dopamine agonist for restless leg syndrome destroyed her life with compulsive gambling. Here's an excerpt from the article describing dopamine's addictive nature:
Dopamine agonists supercharge areas of the brain responsible for cravings, pleasures, and rewards, overriding chemical messages to stop destructive behaviors. The patient, unaware that his brain has been essentially hijacked, believes he is making conscious choices, when the truth is he has been turned into a virtual automaton.
Dopamine agonists are drugs, and their effects are powerful. However, we believe that orgasm can set up a similar imbalance in the brain, as demonstrated by porn addicts.
More than 70 years ago, Denis de Rougemont, the late Swiss scholar, wrote a fascinating book called Love in the Western World. In it he theorizes that Tantra, which ignited in India some time before 800 C.E. from much older roots, traveled west via the Muslim world under the umbrella of divine passion, or fana (the passing away of the self). Fana was the theme of mystical Arab love poetry and song. It infected the Spanish Moors within a few centuries. When it crossed the Pyrenees into what is now southern France - in the refrains of wandering minstrels - it encountered a version of Gnosticism, which had migrated westward from Bulgaria, or beyond.
The Mysterious Cathars
The result was the wildly popular, doomed, and surprisingly influential Cathar movement, which ultimately gave rise to chivalry, or courtly love. The Cathars were passionate purists who regarded themselves as the true Christians. They believed in the "Good God", and claimed that their principles predated those of the Catholics (who believed in the "other" God, who had imprisoned mankind in matter). Cathars did not kill, were vegetarian, and chaste. The Divine Feminine (the Lady, or Sophia, Queen of Heaven) was a key figure in their cosmology, and women could be clerics in their order. Unlike the Catholics they did not favor physical procreation, choosing instead to place their focus on their spiritual lives beyond the material world.
One of the Cathars' basic beliefs was that 'true love' was not the ordinary human love between husband and wife but rather the worship of a feminine savior (the Lady), a mediator between God and man, who waited in the sky to welcome the pure with a holy kiss and lead them into the Realm of Light. By contrast with this pure love, ordinary human sexuality and marriage were bestial and unspiritual. Cathars believed that the love of man and woman should be an earthly allegory of their spiritual love for the Queen of Heaven.
It was the Catholics who branded these Christians with the epithet "Cathar", claiming that the Cathars kissed cats' arses as part of their supposed devil worship. Ironically, the word "cathar" means "pure" in Greek, and that is how the Cathars are remembered. Their very purity ultimately drove the Church to tighten up on many lax practices, like priests' openly keeping mistresses - a common practice in those times. The impassioned purity of the Cathars also indirectly inspired the Reformation and the Quaker movement....