...In recent generations many of us have sought to free our sexuality from religious hypocrisy (an excellent idea) and assure each other that guilt is not serving us (also very sound). Yet this broadmindedness is now deceiving us about the true nature of our sexual obsessions, and preventing us from offering/seeking genuine comfort for such intrusive preoccupations. The titillating sexual ritual has become a sacred cow - regarded as harmless, or glorified as an exercise of personal freedom....
We were very "brave" and started talking and watching your video together. We ended kissing, though, and not paying any more attention to Mrs. Robinson ;-) and landed in bed. And there we had 5 uninterrupted hours of beautiful karezza, no rough waters, no hot passion, but simply an endless time being in love... I still feel as if I were walking on clouds through a starry sky... What can I say? It all comes so easily. And even to him. He did not feel unsatisfied at all. We laughed a lot, had fun, talked a lot, shared and surely did a lot of exchanges. But we did not have to adhere to any disciplining or program. It was all natural. Both of us do not feel there is something we miss. I could not guarantee that this would be always so in the future. But I can see that both of us are not hooked on orgasm or striving for it. Totally the opposite. He has read both Karezza books and is reading yours now. So, our intentions will even get stronger over time, I hope.
Anyway, I have not had such a wonderful time for ages and not felt so good for... I don't know how long. I guess, we're both deeply in love and do not intend to destroy this wonderful state of bliss.
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This month's query is "Alchemy and the Two Becoming One"
Over 4000 years ago, Taoist Master Lao Tzu advised that a person's approach to sex is a sign of his level of spiritual evolution. For those who aspire to the higher realms of living, there is "angelic dual cultivation," which allows every portion of the body, mind and spirit to meet its yearning for the integration of yin and yang.
Angelic dual cultivation is sexual intercourse in which highly evolved individuals join the subtle inner energies of yin and yang in the light of spiritual understanding. Instead of following the biological impulse, lovers refine their fire upward. In short, lovers forego fertilization-driven orgasm in favor of ever-deeper merging and relaxation.
By contrast, ordinary intercourse places all emphasis upon the sexual organs, and whatever physical energy is accumulated is summarily discharged. The subtle energies are also dissipated and disordered. "It is a great backward leap," says Lao Tzu.
So why is angelic dual cultivation advantageous, and why might it have spiritual significance in our return to wholeness, oneness, and primordial androgyny?...
The neurochemical aftermath of orgasm disturbs our subtle energies. It leads to a temporary sense of lack, which manifests differently in everyone. If it registers as a sense of depletion, then others will seem exhausting. If it feels like emotional neediness, others will seem selfish and uncaring. If it feels like scarcity, others will seem greedy. If we feel uneasy, others will seem threatening. No wonder love is tangled up with fear among humankind.
Metaphysics teaches that our thoughts, feelings and expectations create our experience of the physical plane. Perhaps you begin to see how the natural neurochemical roller coaster of conventional sex can cause humankind to operate on beliefs of defensiveness and scarcity....