An ancient Chinese Taoist might answer that sex heals by setting up a nurturing exchange of subtle energy, which occurs naturally between the polar opposites of yin and yang.
In this newsletter we often look for the parallels between esoteric knowledge and recent research, so we naturally wondered if there were any scientific support for this concept. Surprisingly, the answer is "yes," although the evidence is somewhat subtle....
T and I had been going to marriage counseling for about 6 months to work towards more harmony in our relationship. Our approach was more of an ignore and do the opposite of our "old patterns/baggage," but I found it is/was quite forced and it took a huge amount of energy to keep this up.
We did the first 14 or so Exchanges and I noticed many significant changes in our interactions as the result. The most apparent was that we related harmoniously and easily without forcing things. I didn't really have to push down my old patterns because they didn't come up so much anymore with him. We were touching and connecting like in the beginning of our relationship and it was nice to know that we could feel that way again. I would say that the changes were very dramatic and noticeable right away, and I would highly recommend this approach to anyone who is interested in a more harmonious marriage/partnership. I would also highly recommend it for people who have lost all "hope" or connection in their relationship.
I would be happy to have my experience shared.
PEACE BETWEEN THE SHEETS News
Peace Between the Sheets is now out in Bulgarian!
Gary and Marnia will be giving a weekend workshop at Breitenbush Hot Springs from September 29th to October 1st. Space limited.
Check Out All the Violence Here! or How I Jolt You into Submission to Get Your Money
article by Brian W. Vaszily, former marketing wizard for big corporations explains how marketers manipulate your neurochemistry to get you hooked on sex and violence
...Movies, commercials and TV shows (including and especially "the news") are in fact measured for their likely success within the industry by their "jolts per minute," or JPM. This refers to how many times within an average minute that you, the viewer, are going to be "jolted" by something in the program that stimulates your base senses. The more JPM, the more likely that commercial, movie or TV show will be a "hit."
Fear, sexual desire, rage and jealousy are among your most dominant base senses. These are subconscious to instinctual states of being. They don't require you to think in order to produce them. These are where we target all of our jolting.
And that's why the commercial world is saturated with violence and sex. They are the easiest, fastest and most effective methods to stimulate and manipulate your base senses (though like any drug, they are only effective if they are ever-increasing ... which is why in American culture they ARE ever-increasing.)
When the bad guy gets his head blown off or the oil tanker explodes and almost kills the good guy, ... you feel fright, rage or primitive satisfaction. You are certainly not in conscious thinking mode. You are not pondering man's inhumanity to man or the meaning of justice or fate or God. You are reacting....
Getting jolted by us is very easy for you and - in the same base sense that eating cheese is for a mouse - quite enjoyable for you....
The Hindu legend of Parvati, who is the primary personification of the Divine Feminine in the Hindu tradition, paints a fuller picture of the true spiritual depth underlying Tantra than we usually see in the West. It also points to a more vital, disciplined and profound role for women who feel drawn to the Tantric path known as the "left-hand path." (The "left-hand path" incorporates sexual union rather than requiring celibacy.)
The tale began with the cosmos in an uproar because Lord Shiva, the Hindu tradition's chief male deity ("The Auspicious") was in a profound sulk. The other gods had dismembered and scattered the corpse of his first wife (who had brought about her own death after her father insulted Shiva) in an effort to stop his destructive mourning. Utterly disheartened, he renounced the world and resumed his life as an ascetic in the remote Himalayas. Without a living Shakti (manifest Divinity) to balance his Transcendent Divinity, he lost the desire to act in the world.
Profiting from his absence, the demon Taraka overran both heaven and earth. Things were so grim that even the gods prayed to Shakti to incarnate once again as Shiva's consort. She returned in the guise of Parvati ("Daughter of the Mountain") to lure Shiva out of his asceticism with her stunning magnetism, beauty, and charm. Each day she visited his cave to clean and decorate it, offering him fruits and other gifts in order to win his love.
Shiva wouldn't even open his eyes, ignoring her presence completely. Parvati enlisted the services of Priti and Rati, the goddesses of love and longing. They transformed Shiva's cave into a sensuous pleasure garden of love, filled with flowers, fragrance and birdsongs. Kama, the god of love arrived and shot Shiva with his arrows of desire. This tactic apparently annoyed Shiva, who opened his third eye and incinerated Kama on the spot. As a result of this rash act, love disappeared from the world.
Undaunted, Parvati told the gods that Shiva would become her consort, and that when he did, "love (Kama) would be reborn."
Recognizing that if a goddess with her looks, persistence and allure couldn't seduce Shiva, seduction was a dead-end, Parvati entered the forest and become an ascetic herself. She fasted, performed self-mortification, endured privations both summer and winter, and stood motionless on one foot for long periods. She, too, completely detached herself from the world by mastering her body and mind perfectly....