Ever heard the familiar complaints: "All he wants is sex!" and "She's just not the hot babe I got together with!"? Well, they seem to be backed up by actual research. A new study shows that women tend to lose sexual interest in their mates, while men lose affectionate interest in theirs. Researchers found that after 4 years, less than half of the 30-year-old women polled wanted regular sex. Men's desire to engage in tenderness for its own sake fell off just as quickly. ...
My wife gets miffed at me 'cause I frequently have sex with no orgasm. I really don't like to orgasm. Not due to any teachings or any religious thing... just prefer 'the act' vs. 'the end.'
Being a musician who plays over two hundred shows a year, mostly in small clubs, I see the biological imperative in action, especially in females 30-45; pre menopausal behavior that astounds me.
A robust species depends on genetic diversification to survive. Having multiple offspring to the same male is less desirable than having offspring to multiple males. Look at the studies that have been done on pair bonds and the results. It has been recorded that even the famous prairie vole still has males presiding over a brood that's not entirely his.
So I see these human females develop this promiscuity at this age which seems to be a reaction of the body to the "...hey, last chance to diversify..." kinda thing.
In December, Marnia will be speaking at Lucy Cavendish College, in Cambridge, England at a conference entitled "Suicide Bombers- the psychological, religious and other imperatives."
Friends for Life: An Emerging Biology of Emotional Healing
...the emotional status of our main relationships has a significant impact on our overall pattern of cardiovascular and neuroendocrine activity. This radically expands the scope of biology and neuroscience from focusing on a single body or brain to looking at the interplay between two at a time. In short, my hostility bumps up your blood pressure, your nurturing love lowers mine. Potentially, we are each other's biological enemies or allies....
In this article we'll consider the problem of spiritual teachers who misuse devotees for sexual ends.
Nearly every major religion teaches that we would be wise to treat each other as we would like to be treated… because eventually what we do comes back to us. So why do spiritual teachers so often exploit others sexually? After all, many possess genuine insight and a gift for inspiring others. It is also evident that they certainly would not want to be used sexually as they sometimes use those in their flocks.
Why don't they treat their sexual partners as cherished equals and revered mates? Why do they sometimes rationalize casual sex, or sexual addiction, as an improvement over the unconditional love of a relationship devoted to mutual enlightenment?
In many cases, it is because they are convinced that they are already enlightened, or at least holier than others, and therefore have risen above the karmic scorecard. This may be a flawed assumption. As Taoist master Lao Tzu once taught,
Don't think that you can attain total awareness and whole enlightenment without proper discipline and practice. This is egomania. Appropriate rituals channel your emotions and life energy toward the light. Without the discipline to practice them, you will tumble constantly backward into darkness.
Here is the great secret:
Just as high awareness of the subtle truth is gained through virtuous conduct and sustaining disciplines, so also is it maintained through these things. Highly evolved beings know and respect the truth of this.