Remember the myth of Tantalus? The gods punished him by immersing him in water up to his neck, but when he bent to drink, it all drained away. Luscious fruit hung on trees above him, but when he reached for it, the winds blew the branches beyond his reach. The Mick Jagger of the ancient world, Tantalus "got no satisfaction."
Humankind is in an equally unsatisfying predicament. Unlike Tantalus, we can reach (or click on) many of the tantalizing goodies we desire: high-calorie foods, sexual stimulation, online gambling, alcohol, and mood-altering drugs. Yet the majority of us are nearly as frustrated as Tantalus, and far more despondent. After all, Tantalus no doubt believed satisfaction was theoretically possible. Many of us have forgotten what true satisfaction feels like or where to find it. We're addicts - and often in worse shape than our ancestors - or people living in cultures where our coveted temptations are not so readily available....
[Letter to editor of "ByronChild" magazine]...Although it is consciousness and the presence of love that elevates sex to making love, neuroscience offers another window and rationale to support this truth....
If people really get the point of this approach, it could be a huge relief and allow more space for love. It then doesn't become a big deal to make love, there is no result to achieve, it doesn't have to go on until someone has an orgasm - and then end. It becomes part of your ongoing life and love, not something separate. As you say, making love - or building your store of oxytocin - is not confined to the bedroom.
I remember the spiritual teacher Barry Long saying that 'you can't be in a state of love if you are going for an orgasm.' He didn't say that you shouldn't have one, but if the focus is on loving and delight your partner, it is less likely to happen.... Entire letter
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It may be known as 'retail therapy', but the next edition of the American Psychiatric Association will recognise being a shopaholic as a clinical disorder. At Stanford University, trials held on the SSRI anti-depressant Citalopram concluded that the drug was a 'safe and effective treatment for Compulsive Shopping Disorder'.
The rise of compulsive spending mirrors the obesity time bomb slowly detonating in the richest countries of the world, according to psychologists. A recent study found that women in their twenties had gained an average of five kilograms in the last seven years....
Edgar Cayce (d. 1945) was a channel known as "the sleeping prophet." Numerous natural health remedies still used today and much intriguing metaphysical material came through the many readings he gave while in trance. This article is a comprehensive look at what the Cayce material had to say about sex.
Then crucify desire in self; that ye may be awakened to the real abilities of helpfulness that lie within thy grasp. Cayce reading 2475-1
One of the most fascinating, yet obscure, promises in the Cayce material lies in the readings interpreting the book of Revelation. Cayce's source insists that if one cleanses and purifies the forces of the gonads (reproductive center), one can bring about complete regeneration (perfect operation of the endocrine system). This is the key to the riddle of the Tree of Life referred to in Genesis.
But how exactly does one cleanse and discipline the reproductive force? The readings say that the answer can be found through a combination of (1) contemplation, (2) actual experience working with the ideas suggested in the Commentary, and (3) greater knowledge about the endocrine system. In particular, "Everyone should understand their purposes, desires — physically, mentally, spiritually — in human relationships," advises Cayce.
More than 15 years ago, after many relationships that started out with much love and mutual attraction but deteriorated for a variety of reasons that seemed to make no sense, I did as the readings suggest. I set a strong, continuing intention that my will be completely aligned with God's will where my intimate relationships were concerned.
Without consciously realizing it, I had embarked on a quest that would combine clues from ancient wisdom about sacred sexuality with recent findings by neuroscientists…and confirm exactly what Cayce said over 60 years ago. Our endocrine system is the means by which sexual expression is linked to both spiritual growth…and spiritual blindness. ...