Certainly we know what excites our reward circuitry: high-calorie foods, sexual stimulation, trying something new, getting something for nothing, taking an impulsive risk, and so forth. This hidden programming leaves us pathetically vulnerable to the wiles of today's advertisers....
Happiness seems dependent upon having lots of choices so that, like Goldilocks, we can pick out just the right one for us. Our assumptions - that happiness lies in gratifying each new desire, and having many choices - turn out to be flawed. ... Entire article
I remember years ago reading a most tragic and heart-wrenching account of human suffering. It was written by the victim himself, now a man, recalling his youth. From the time Matt was a child, his mother kept him confined 24 hours a day in a large cardboard box. At age nine he was put into foster care.
I think of all the teenage boys (like me) who are trapped inside their own "cardboard box" of Internet pornography addiction. This is a tragedy too. I also ponder the sad state of the pornographers, obsessed with the profit potential of luring young men into the box and keeping them there - sealed off from so many of life's beauties, deprived of hope for the future, stifled by the disabling captivity of an insidious addiction. X, age 16, India
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Kindred Magazine has just published our article, "How to Talk with Your Teenager about Porn"
Articles in the press recently reported that Viagra increases oxytocin. ... We were intrigued by that claim and did a little digging into the latest research ourselves.
The Viagra study itself did not find that Viagra increased the release of oxytocin in the brain...except when electrical stimulation was applied to the subjects' pituitaries. In short, it was the electrical stimulation that triggered the actual release of the oxytocin in the animals given Viagra. So unless you plan to use Viagra with pulsing electrodes in your brain, you needn't concern yourself with taking it to increase emotional bonding with a partner. ...
Australian healer Walter Last shares his thoughts on the forgotten doctrine at the heart of Christianity in an article entitled, "A Saint and His Virgin."
The Gnostic Gospels as well as other writings point to a central role of sacred sexuality in early Christianity. No details of these practices seem to have survived, as the Church later tried to erase all records. In the following I will show that, according to my understanding, these sacred sexual practices are central to the teachings of Jesus about the "Kingdom of Heaven", and that they are still relevant in our time.
...I believe the early Christians with their holy agape relationships had something that we have lost and deep within us long for ever since: The Embrace of Peace.
This is how I imagine the saint and his virgin exchanged their sexual energies: they were lying together naked in a frontal embrace, legs intertwined, but without much movement, perhaps with some occasional touches of endearment, and they were just melting into each other's feelings of love and deep peace. There was no striving for anything, nothing to achieve or to perform, just being and feeling.
I regard this embrace of peace as one of our best tools for healing. It counters the greatest scourge of our time: stress. Presently we are stressed at all levels of our existence, from pollution in our air, food and water, ... expectations to perform at school, workplace and marriage, suppressed and misdirected sexual energies, and many other emotional shocks and disappointments. ...