Reuniting - November 2008 Newsletter

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November, 2008

Neuroenhancement of Love and Marriage: The Chemicals Between Us

Here's a fascinating piece by some Oxford academics, Julian Savulescu and Anders Sandberg. Although we think trying to use pills to keep couples together would be extremely unwise, we understand that there don't seem to be many options once one really sees the human dilemma clearly...especially if one is convinced that 'sexual satiation equals wellbeing.' We can't help wondering if these authors would trumpet the ethics of changing behavior to increase the chances of remaining in love with as much gusto as they recommend popping theoretical mating pills with potentially risky outcomes.

Abstract This paper reviews the evolutionary history and biology of love and marriage. It examines the current and imminent possibilities of biological manipulation of lust, attraction and attachment, so called neuroenhancement of love. We examine the arguments for and against these biological interventions to influence love. We argue that biological interventions offer an important adjunct to psychosocial interventions, especially given the biological limitations inherent in human love.

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Have A Laugh at the Gender Gap

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Letters from the Trenches


A blogger tipped us off to a fascinating video about two couples who had virtually stopped having sex, and what they did about it. Without intending to be, it's a telling look at what passion can do...and what bonding behaviors can do. Note: This video has six short parts. You have to return to the link below to choose each part.

Video of two couples


Spanish-speaking friends? The "Reuniting" YOU Tube video is now available with subtitles.

Video with Spanish Subtitles

Sufi Wisdom on Relationships

A visitor to our website shared some Sufi philosophy with us recently. It includes a glimpse into the ideal union between male and female.

... It is said that the biggest endeavour of the devil is to draw man and woman apart; there is even an Islamic hadith (saying) about it. There is also a saying by Prophet Muhammad that marriage is “half of your religion”. It is sad that so many have not grasped the esoteric meaning behind this saying; as it refers directly to the balanced state of Immanence that is required after Transcendence is realised (or too often merely 'formalised') in religion. This is the former half that gives balance to the latter and thus helps bring closeness to the knowledge of God as opposed to the awful state of separation and lack of unity in which we now live. ...

Essay by Abdullah Al Hassan