I wrote in I Get Turned On Just Cuddling that I get aroused with cuddling quite often. And I sometimes drip a bit of clear liquid from my penis, I suppose it's precum.
I also find that I am very sensitive to touch and when Sparkles really touches me in a soft way, and I'm talking non erotically, like on the chest or my back, several times I have experienced what feels like an orgasm almost, more of a low key rolling orgasm that is not accompanied by an erection or ejaculation. It's pretty cool actually.
Interestingly enough, after this happens I have observed that the next few days I feel depressed, bla and sometimes unaccountably angry. I guess I used to feel this all the time after ejaculating but I wasn't conscious of it then.
So I will try to avoid going over the deep end when Sparkles touches me this way because I don't like the feelings that result afterwards at ALL. I find my interest in Sparkles dies off a bit until a few days later when I feel back to the "new normal" excited and wonderful feelings that I have now grown to love, that oxytocin wonderfulness, so to speak.
And this brings me to what I want to discuss and ask about.
How do you turn non-erotic type cuddling stuff into erotic sex in Karezza without introducing escalating sexual tension that I am used to in order to have sex "the old way"?
There seems to be, with Sparkles, a switch. The switch is set to "cuddling and non-arousal" or "arousal". There may not be such a switch and perhaps she'll respond differently as we go along, but that's what she believes right now, that there is such a (imaginary but nevertheless real) switch.
So the type of activity is "erotic" or "just cuddling" according to her and she gets concerned that I'll grow pushy when we cuddle and I get aroused.
But back to my question. When I first met Sparkles I had problems getting and maintaining an erection. I had to kind of find my manliness, my sense of masculine power and presence, in order to become erect. When I remained in the "cuddle zone" that didn't happen.
Now I find that it is difficult for me to believe that I can transition from cuddling to sex without that tension. I am willing to try it and believe it, but I'm not there yet and struggling to see how that works.
I hope this makes sense and that you can comment with your thoughts.