So, I am posting on here in order to get some support and advice. My bf has porn-related ED, and although we are also seeking support from professionals; I am feeling very alone in this process. My bf has been in the rebooting process for about 5-6 weeks, and it has been incredibly difficult for him. He has relapsed several times with P and hasn't been able to last more than a handful of days without M, although he can go for a few more days without O. I'm not sure how to better support him than what I am already doing. I believe he is really trying the best he can, but I feel like he feels hopeless to some extent. It's been very painful for me because I know he can get an erection with porn, or even looking at women in bathing suits on a screen, but it has been very difficult for him to get a semi-erection with me. He assures me that he finds me very attractive, and beautiful, but I miss having sex with him, (we were using viagra before, but then stopped having sex for his rebooting process), and I want to feel that desire from him. He doesn't even seem very willing to come-up with a back-up plan for when he has urges to PMO. Although he taken many other measures (blocked internet, etc.) to help him.
I've looked at the Candeo site that is a support system, but am not sure if it's just too much info being thrown at him, and I don't want to be the nagging gf. I just feel very alone in this. I can't talk to my gf's about this---only my therapist. I'm not sure what else to do. I love him, and want to be with him, but I can't stay in a relationship void of sex. It feels bad to give him an ultimatum as I realize this process is already difficult enough for him. *sigh*
Does anyone have suggestions how I can best support him without becoming a gf that does all the research and pushing him constantly? Also, does anyone know of support groups for partner's that suffer from this (the addiction). Any advice for him that I could share (please tell me how best to approach it--if men are responding, please say how you would like your gf to speak about it to you.)