Much of my work has to do with adults with Reactive Attachment Disorder. This is a group of individuals strongly struggling with personal relationships and intimacy issues. "Letting someone in" is not at all easy when the pattern has always been "letting go", especially when the first-love relationship with a mother (specifically) has been altered by abuse, abandonment and relinquishment of parental responsibility. I know these issues very intimately, because I was the lucky bastard who got burnt by two sets of "loving parents" and a sexless spouse.
I find adults with RAD have an intense anxiety towards emotional closeness, and they typically fall into two categories: over-sexed and under-sexed. Obviously, no extreme is healthy, and re-training (through what I call "active re-parenting") seems to be the best form of behavior modification.
Given the profound abundance of porn and "free-sex", I was wondering what others thought about the idea of porn-reform? Would there be a market for sex-films that focus on the simplistics of intimate sharing and caring, versus the wham-bam-thank-you-ma'am approach most production companies reproduce? Can the sex-industry become interested in creating films that focus on how slow-growth eroticism benefits a couple, (accepting that as the new-alternative life-style) versus the quick aggressive fix most of us have grown to accept within their scripts?