6 days ago, I came in here and spent hours reading this web site and being fascinated by the depth of knowledge shared by Marnia and her husband, as well as the generosity with which they share it with the world. I had come across the idea of sex without conventional orgasm years ago, but I never could make it work. However, when I read Marnia's work, it just 'clicked' when I realized that the problem was that I was thinking in terms of craving the orgasm and simply trying to hold back ejaculation. I seem to be in the midst of starting a new relationship, and even just at the very beginning, just taking on the attitude that the orgasm is important makes me feel so much more relaxed and comfortable.
I knew right away that I was ready to go conventional-orgasm-free. Once before, when I was partnerless, I decided to go without ejaculation at the advice of a TCM practitioner. I understood from his point of view that there was some sort of energy that he suggested I conserve to heal my body, but I had never heard the idea that orgasm is unnecessary for a satisfying sexual relationship.
The last few days, I've been seeing this girl I'm interested in. I was quite relieved to find that going in with my orgasm-free attitude from the beginning, I didn't feel any overwhelming urge to have ejaculate. You may recall from the movie "Something about Mary" that the lead character is advised by his friend to masturbate before a big date; otherwise, he is warned that he will feel as if he is carrying around a loaded gun. As for me, I felt as if I were more free to just enjoy being with her without worrying about the orgasm. Erections came and went, and I even felt a little bit of 'precum' leak into my pants, but there was no unpleasant feeling that I 'needed relief'. Once again, I feel that it you want to follow Marnia's path, it is important not only that you avoid orgasming, but you honestly give up the *desire* to have an orgasm.
So now, it's been almost 6 whole days. I felt fine for the first few days, and one of the first changes that I noticed was that when I listen to music, it feels more emotional than it used to. I don't think of porn as something I've been addicted to, but I thought I should state just for the record that I gave that up, too.
Yesterday, I started feeling my mind preoccupied with some thoughts of fetishes. As the day progressed, I felt increasingly restless, unable to sit still or concentrate for long, almost as if I had the coffee jitters, but without the coffee buzz. I also felt unmotivated to do much anything useful. I didn't expect to have this experience, but plain as day, there it was. I feel pity for those who have the extreme withdrawal symptoms described in other threads.
Finally, in the late afternoon, I did a yoga class, which in spite of the fact that I felt better afterwards, I felt so exhausted in class that I nearly passed out.
My fondest desire right now is that I get to experience the ecstatic exchanges and the karezza method soon, regardless of whether it's going to be with this girl, or someone else. I want to see this work for me, and then I want to see it work for my friends too. If it's as good as some say, it would be nothing short of criminal to not share it! Marnia's work has given me a renewed sense of hope for my love life.