Since the approach seems to focus on healing the separation that occurs between the sexes, is it possible to effectively use the principles and techniques for a monogamous and intimate male-same-sex relationship?
From my still early read and introduction to this site and the book "Peace Between the Sheets...," it seems to me that same-sex relationships are viewed as one of the possible coping-mechanisms to the biologically influenced separation between the sexes. I am not resistant to this idea. In fact, I actually find it fascinating and worth continued consideration. It certainly seems to make sense. I just want to know if you think it's possible -- and worth the effort -- to seek a healthy and whole same-sex relationship according to this approach?
My initial guess is torn -- part of me suspects that if same-sex relationships are actually, on some level, a symptom (or coping mechanism) of the sex divide, then trying to make it work misses the foundation of true healing as well as perpetuating inevitable frustration. Whereas, another part of me thinks (and indeed hopes!!) that if balancing the chemical cycles of addiction can work in heterosexual relationships then it should work the same in homosexual ones.
If the latter is not true or possible, then I would think you'd have to say -- despite how heinously unpopular this would be politically -- that your program is the once mythic solution for same-sex orientation. Whoa!
And while I am certainly not looking for a solution to being gay -- it is not my position that it is a pathology -- I would certainly pursue eradicating it if indeed it were the only way to eradicate my current sexual addiction and the unspeakable pain and erosions that necessarily accompany it. But to repeat and be sure, my first preference worth fighting for at the moment, would be to create a truly healthy, whole, and happy intimate and monogamous relationship with another man. Is it possible or an oxymoron?
How would you answer directly and honestly? What ideas do you have to help?