So You Call This Sex?

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she says to me. We had lain together about 15 minutes. As usual me caressing and kissing her worshipfully, a brief back rub exchange, and then I entered the holy of holies. She was ready and our time was up (she requested a brief, limited encounter). Gracious and happy I offered withdrawl. She said, "What's the point? Why get all worked up and stop?" Neither of us was particularly hot and it was her choice to stop. I responded with my deep understanding of karezza, "Uh, to unite the male and female within and make us whole."
"I am whole."
Blessings on us all. I'll keep studying.

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*chuckle*

Never mind what happens in the sack afterward. Often, this practice is more about how you feel the *rest* of the time. See if she's more affectionate on the whole.

On the other hand, sometimes the practice is quite magical...in a different way from regular sex. There can be elated merging sensations...a sense of melting together in infinite peace.

Dr. Jensen, who was also a fan of Karezza, said couples should plan to make love at least a dozen times in this gentler way before they can expect to experience its true potential. Even then, "it" doesn't happen every time. Excerpt from Jensen's book: http://www.reuniting.info/download/JensenKarezza.pdf

Maybe she could just treat it as a meditation, rather than "sex," in the meanwhile. Apart from her doubts, how did you feel afterward?

I'm Very Busy

and she is too. After Sunday night, not much contact on Monday. I asked for the bed time and faced with her reluctance I felt I needed to give her a break on Monday. I was just in her bed this Tuesday morning and it was a sweet 10 minutes. I get so high when we touch. It's still iffy...am I giving or taking? I figure if I leave feeling satisfied it's oxytocin and if I want more it's dopamine. Seems like I always want more....BUT I am still very happy with the coping mechanisms I've picked up from this practice. I don't miss the desperation.

This weeks mantra: It's all good. If it's a little funky now, it'll get better soon.

I get the infinite peace/meditation part. Karezza is so like my solo meditation practice with all of it's benefits and challenges. I find it difficult to read her and have to pull back and check in....."Where are you?","Come back". When I really get sailing/blissed out, I have to pull myself back and reconnect with a "Here I am."

I've gotten off the goddess track and looking forward to getting back on.

Thank you for your contribution to my life.