It's been difficult, but I feel myself growing

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So I've remained four weeks sober. I can't say it has been easy. The last week in particular was really rough. I have been going through some stressful situations (most of it financial), and the temptation to masturbate was great. But I feel that I've gained a lot.

Here are some things that I think have helped me the most:

- This web site. This week I decided to reread the "Instruction Manual for the Primitive Brain," and that helped keep me on track and motivated. Plus, people's support and feedback have helped a lot. Even the motivation to not have to report that I gave in has been important. A big hug to everyone on this site.

- Meditation. I don't know this to be the case, but I doubt I would have lasted without meditation. It's seemingly simple, but very powerful.

- Celebrity Rehab. I've been watching the show Celebrity Rehab with Dr. Drew and I think it really has helped me to see addiction in a different way, and the ways our brains convince us to do what is not in our best interest. Say what one will about a show that videos addiction rehab in all its ups and downs, it has helped me.

- Exercise. I've only been doing this for a few days, but I can already tell this is helping me considerably. I feel less anxious. I sleep better. I feel more "manly" in a healthier way.

- Socializing. I would have never guessed (as obvious as it might sound) that spending time with others is so important during this process. Even if its just watching a movie with someone. I can tell the difference between times I've spent with people and times I've spent alone. I even begin to think more rationally and clearly. It's absolutely vital.

- Realizing that I'm more likely to find a mate. This information has been really important too. Just knowing that I'm more likely to realize a real relationship rather than fantasy on the screen is a huge motivation factor.

I'm still working on it. I still find myself fantasizing or obsessing about a female I may know and there are moments I'm not sure I'm going to be able to resist, but overall it has been good.

Thanks everyone!

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Nice!

I admit you're the first one we've heard who's been helped by Celebrity Rehab [bigsmile] but hey, whatever helps!

It's always good to hear good news Smile

That's a great list of suggestions

I'll post a link to it on the help for addicts section.

Glad you're noticing benefits...even if The Challenge is severe at times. Hopefully in another few weeks you'll be completely back in balance and ready for whatever life brings you (and the normal challenges that sex always presents).;-) Keep your eyes open for cute 3-D goddesses.

You are a brave man! *pins medal on chest*

Grats!

Glad you are here and glad things are going well.

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- Realizing that I'm more likely to find a mate. This information has been really important too. Just knowing that I'm more likely to realize a real relationship rather than fantasy on the screen is a huge motivation factor.
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This was a helpful reminder for me, thank you!