Well, I found this site in response to wondering why my husband brought up the topic of divorce a few hours after intense, joyful love-making. It seemed such bad timing; I mean, why not bring it up after an intense argument? Now I know better, and I more fully understand his exhaustion and depression in mood (coupled with increased anxiety) on the days following orgasm.
We have recently separated and I am trying to live orgasm-less (since the information presented on this website seems logical and worthwhile to me). I am someone that's learned to always be 'in the mood' so to speak-- and I thought that I was doing my marriage a great service with this sort of attitude. Now it seems that I have much re-learning to do.
My current issue is that I feel 'antsy' if I go without orgasm for more than 3 days. Like Oscar Wilde mused, it seems that so far I've been able to 'resist everything except temptation'. Tell me not to think of of the 'Eiffel Tower' (with all of its related phallic symbolism relevant in my case) and... well, that's all I think about. God, it's exhausting, yet I think that this re-learning process will also exercise my emotional intelligence and self-control.
Well, there you have it. Life is hard... and long. Oooops, I did it again. It's just that my mind can't stop going there.