Recently Marnia asked me whether I wanted to be happy or right on the porn-issue, since I was (and still am) devastated because I discovered my boyfriend´s addiction. The way Marnia posed the question already led to the 'best' answer, that is: everyone wants to be happy, eventually. What I am afraid is that one might not be happy just choosing happiness. Hapiness demands other considerations in the long-run. Let me give an example quite related to the issues discussed in this forum.
I have seen many cases of women helping their addicted fathers/boyfriends/husbands. Now ask me if the opposite is true. If I can see men who are caring and helpful to women. What I have seen is a great amount of cases were a sick woman was abandoned by her 'loving' 'male'.
In the case of porn addiction what is expected from women is that they are compreehensible with their partners. And I ask myself if the opposite would be the case, if men had to handle a situation were a woman is a sexual addict, and sleeps every night with another partner. How many loving husbands would we see then? What is the meaning of again sliping in the traditional women´s role? Does it mean we are again ready to help and will again be ready to be despised/ cheated/ missused?
I have the impression that the world is looks like this: mostly men do whatever they want (clayming it is theirs sacred right), and there is always a humble female wanting to clean up the mess, to love, to embrance.
I expect your comments.