Anyone have any ideas about how to refer to this other type of lovemaking? I sometimes call it "controlled intercourse," which lacks poetry...to say the least.
Many years ago, the Catholic Church called it "coitus reservatus" in a mandate discouraging its use. The author of "The Karezza Method" argued that since it is not "coitus completus" (ejaculatory sex) or "coitus interuptus" (ejaculation...er...elsewhere), and yet gives a feeling of "perfect realization," it should be called, "coitus sublimatus"...and be recognized as another form of "complete coitus."
Many authors have referred to the feeling of blissful merging with a partner as "melting." That term appeals to me most. In fact, I think MELT is a perfect acronym for "Mutual Ecstatic Loving Transcendence." However, for the uninitiated, "melting" does call up the image of the demise of the Wicked Witch of the West....
"Non-orgasmic sex" is hard to get excited about.
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