Hi all. Well, its been nearly 8 days since my first bout of Karezza-style intercourse, and I thought I'd do an update.
First, let me say that when we did "karezza" the last time, we did finish with orgasms for both of us, but the amazing thing is, there has been absolutely no fallout for either of us. Let me explain why I think that is. First, years ago, when we were having conventional-style sex, with its heat-em-up foreplay, hard thrusting and quick finish, I was having Os after my husband had climaxed, but even so, I always had orgasm fallout and a great deal of hostility toward him, even though he always made sure I had an O. This time, our love-making, done Karezza-style, was very slow and leisurely, with no heating-type foreplay and no hard thrusting. There was only gentle, heart-centered "foreplay" and a long, slow, gentle bout of P-I-V...at least 45 mins of it...before we both decided we wanted to climax. Afterward, I felt absolutely NO hostility or anger toward my husband...a huge change from the aftermath of conventional sex. And in the days that have followed, there has been no fallout that either of us has noticed. During that time, we have done bonding behaviors for at least 15-20 mins every day at least once per day, and usually twice per day. It is my belief that it is the long, slow, gentle PIV, plus the BBs every day since then, that have kept fallout from happening. The other thing that is very important to me is that he no longer touches me in a sexualized fashion. He has learned that whenever he touches me, it must not be in a hungry, sexual way, because that alarms me and sets me on edge. With the hunger out of his touch, he is now free to touch me whenever and where ever he wishes, and I welcome his touch now, and enjoy it immensely. So I think Karezza might be quite an adaptable system of lovemaking, adaptable to the couple's personal tastes and needs. Thankyou, Marnia, for bringing this forgotten blessing called Karezza to light again.