2 weeks after accidental orgasm.

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I was wondering why in Peace it's recommended not to have intercourse in the 2 weeks after an accidental orgasm, whether it be a dream one or a physical one. It's mentioned that the sexual "desire" in a lustful sense can skyrocket in the 2 weeks after an orgasm. If a couple is committed to non orgasm intercourse then wouldn't it be preferrable and even helpful to have intercourse as described in Peace (bridge, Yab yum, scissors) with no or little movement? This would transmute/transform any lustful feelings into love and greatly benefit both partners at a time that they really need it. It seems that it would only seem necessary to abstain from intercourse for the 2 weeks if the couple weren't completely committed to orgasmless sex, and therefore may succumb to temptation.
Whilst an accidental orgasm can highlight energy moving in the wrong direction (taking more than giving), it can also just be because or poor judgement in maneouvering into position. In the latter case, I would have thought it best to learn from what caused it and to continue on as before. In the case of energy moving in the wrong direction and causing an orgasm then I could understand the 2 week abstination to re-program the energy flow.

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2 weeks after accidental orgasm.

I think you're right that in theory it would be "preferable and even helpful to have intercourse as described in Peace (bridge, Yab yum, scissors) with no or little movement." The challenge is that--during the hangover period--when one isn't feeling the "sparkles" and one's perception has totally shifted...it is very hard to stick to that course of action (careful intercourse). Under the circumstances it seems safer to avoid intercourse and keep one's focus on activities that are strictly nurturing (that is, leaving genitals out of them for a while).
 
So much for the reasons behind the recommendation. Others may find better ways of meeting this challenge. Please share insights that may help others.
 

2 weeks after accidental orgasm.

I've found that within 2 weeks of having an orgasm, it's extremely difficult to stay on the path. I've found dream orgasms to be the worst of all actually, worse than an accidental orgasm. It seems that the times I've "caved in" or givin in have been within about 4 days after a dream orgasm. I guess this may be the case because an accidental orgasm means that you didn't mean it to happen and didn't want it to happen, but a dream orgasm nearly always means that some part of you does want to have an orgasm and so it's coming through in the dream. When this happens it really creates havoc to continuing with the sex exchanges. I can now understand why there's a 2 week waiting period after having an orgasm before continuing sex with no orgasm. For me it's not that I'm crappy during the 2 weeks, it's more that I then question what I"m doing and end up justifying to myself that it would be ok to have "regular" ograsm sex. Usually within a few minutes of a physical intentional orgasm, I've realised that I've somehow been conned into having the orgasm and regret it and so start the 2 week cycle again. This has happened to me a couple of times now.