Brain balance without going long-term without any release?

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Can one begin to experience the brain balancing effects without going longer term without any release or orgasm? Is the brain balancing due to less porn, orgasm, or both?

I'm a bit confused about the individual effects versus combined effects of porn and orgasm/masturbation. Do we know the answer to that? Does anyone use porn and not orgasm?

You are asking the right

You are asking the right questions. The best thing to do is to experiment for yourself and see how you feel. Everybody is different, but there seem to be some consistent observations.

"Can one begin to experience the brain balancing effects without going longer term without any release or orgasm?"

Probably yes, but it is more difficult and takes longer. The more addicted we are to things, the more our brain gets out of whack and the longer it will take to get back to equilibrium. The more that moderation and self control and the less binging behavior you have will naturally give you greater balance, even if you do occasionally orgasm. However, if you have had a problem then it is usually helpful to have a period with no orgasm at all. How long is different for each person, but when you see the results for yourself and you see the pull that your limbic brain has on you in all its glory, you start seeing how your sexual behavior/compulsion and your mood are connected. It's difficult to see this connection at first because we are biologically programmed to not see the connection, but if you pay close attention, you will notice a difference.

"I'm a bit confused about the individual effects versus combined effects of porn and orgasm/masturbation. Do we know the answer to that? Does anyone use porn and not orgasm?"

Porn without orgasm is similar to fantasy without orgasm- Its going to make your time away from orgasm a lot harder because it keeps the dopamine pumping. Even though there is no orgasm reward, your body is going to prepare for it. I have never really had the urge to do this to myself, but some people here have done this, but from reading about it, it doesnt seem like they hold on for too long if they are really trying to stop orgasm for a while. If you are trying to experiment, give yourself a break of at least a month away from porn and masturbation and note your feelings. Most people report intense mood swings for the first few weeks, from mild euphoria to depression, but then gradually level out. Experiencing the euphoria from this process can be encouraging because you learn how you are capable of feeling, but the lows can be intense. My suggestion is to just jump in with both feet and see for yourself.

Courage is knowing what not to fear.
-Plato

Thanks. It is hard to know

Thanks. It is hard to know what feelings are coming from where. How can one try to sort out feelings/mood due to the experimentation versus reactions to life due to work, relationships, etc

Why would periodic orgasm slow the brain balancing effects? Are we addicted to porn, orgasm, or both independently? Are younger children who orgasm but have never have used porn experiencing brain imbalance too? Porn seems to make orgasm more compulsive in that you crave the porn and associate that with orgasm. Once porn is out of the picture, it is a much more rational choice to orgasm or not, with input, but not craving signals, coming from within. It does seem that some of the same reasons that lead to the porn craving might lead to orgasm cravings. I expect that will fade with time as the brain disassociates from the escape of porn and finds other avenues for internally processing the issues.

Do people find new addictions to fill the place of porn? I'm wondering if I need to be on the lookout for that. Are we forever at risk of going back like smoking or will we regain our distaste for porn just like many non-smokers can't stand smoke?