Hello everyone, this is my first-ever post. I have questions and comments about two things. I would very much appreciate anyone's experiences or clarifications regarding either, even if it is stuff you've already said. Here I'll describe my first musing, which regards.....
Masturbation without Orgasm/Rebooting: I've done as much research as anyone could on this subject and I've raised more questions than I've answered. When attempting to completely abstain from orgasm (something I've been attempting for years), this has always been game over for me. Not because I can't will myself to stop before orgasm, but because it only intensifies the urges. It's pointed out on this website that the brain probably notes something very valuable happening and then pushes you to "finish the job." This seems plausible to me because if I leave the realm of complete abstinence from orgasm and ALL sexual stimulation and stimulate myself, even if I stop before orgasm my mind has a hellish time shutting out the images I fantasize about, and my motivation evaporates for days.
With that being said my question is this: What is happening at a neurochemical level when one masturbates without orgasm, and how does it affect the hangover cycle? I feel safe in saying that dopamine surges but does not spike the way it would during an orgasm. I do not think that prolactin plays any part. Any of you who have masturbated without orgasm know that it doesn't leave you feeling satisfied. Can anybody make any additions that would answer my question more completely? Knowledge is power in the struggle for abstinence. Not knowing how you've affected your effort is, for me, about as bad as losing the fight and orgasming.
If rebooting the brain means allowing it to return to a state where it rewards us properly for human connection and interaction, it seems implausible to me that masturbation without orgasm doesn't throw a wrench in the process. After days or weeks of abstinence, the feeling you get from "having fun for awhile" is still, I think, enough to make the brain say "Hmmm, this is easier than social interaction." I bet that at the very least it prolongs the reboot.
Again, I would thoroughly appreciate anybody's further questions, comments, or ravings. I'll post my second musing soon. Thank you all.