Thanks for asking. I've stopped reading about karezza and visiting this place because I could not get my partner to join me in this practice (and Lawd, I ain't got no time.....this note has taken an hour). I became very anxious and obsessive about how to get her involved. I expressed that struggle here....thank you thank you, thank you. But reading and blogging here also fed my anxiety and frustration. I became a more "loving" man but was frustrated with her lack of response. I felt stupid giving to a woman who did not appreciate the gifts. I withdrew. In May (after a bout of porn use) I was thinking divorce. I went over 3 weeks without orgasm before bringing it up to my wife. I read "No More Mister Nice Guy" by Robert Glover (thanks JRSun76) and took a serious inventory of my self, by myself. Mi esposa y mi had several days of long and difficult talks (2X4 method of spousal training). We have come to a new agreement: at some point on weekends, she will initiate a sexual intimate encounter and I on Wednesdays. On the intervening days I practice loving contact without expectation of any kind. I've found a great peace in this practice. Over the 4th of July weekend we had some of the best sex ever in our 36 year relationship: almost 2 hours of non goal oriented loving contact. We did end in orgasm, so I can't call it karezza, but it kind of was. Because of what I've learned here, I was in a place of satisfaction throughout the encounter. We could have stopped at any point. My Izzy likes her O......ok, ok, I like mine too......so we did, but it was a small part of a much larger connection....a nice finishing touch. Fallout? Hangover? I dunno. I do have hope. I know that today and again in a couple of days my wife and I will be together in the way that I want and she gets the peace that she wants. Gawd, that sounds selfish and self centered. I also read "The Guru Papers" by Kramer and Alstad and a little selfishness is ok for me.
I am so very grateful to be free from chasing the orgasm. Thank you all.