Finding this website has been very helpful. In fact, I found this website because I was searching for Mantak Chia's instructions for circulating sexual energy. I've been involved in meditative disciplines for nearly 14 years (though I am only 30) and this aspect has always alluded me. Because, in most literature, no matter how explicit the teacher is in their instruction, the down-to-earth facts about sex are often glossed over or spoken of in vague generalized terms. I remember wanting to know how to circulate sex energy since I was a little kid, believe it or not. I remember asking my father how to do it and he had no real advice... Anyway, the taoist breathing technique worked well. I found myself on a kind of high for several days after. It was unlike anything I've experienced in many ways as it last far longer. It was *high quality* [ying] lol. I also decided at this time to stop masturbating for a while. Since I've been single for the last few years this has become an increasing addiction / reaction to stress that seems to make it worse. At one time it was so bad I was having panic attacks (this is for another post sometime! too much to say...)
Reading the articles on this site about dopamine and prolactin levels after orgasm made a big impact on me. It put a LOT of things into perspective for me. Thank you! I could go on and on about all sorts of related things both good and bad... My question for the moment...
Once you have gone a while without orgasm and your brain balances it's chemical levels and gets the all needed chemical reset... Is it possible to orgasm without such detrimental chemical changes in the brain? A healthy-gasm, so to speak? It has been 5 days now and it is amazing! My respiration rate is often far slower than it has been in years (especially during periods of meditation and tai chi) though my energy is often far higher than it has been in years. Sometimes my energy is REALLY high. I will say there have been some times when I just sort of had to "hang out" with my bad feelings. I have felt my lower energy centers "clearing house". And sometimes this has been... icky... and at times even a little scary. But the heart has a way of clearing things up, transforming them, and usually after an hour or two I am able to get a good zen laugh in. There's all sorts of junk down tharrrgh matey!
How long in abstinence until this "chemical reset" is achieved?
I would like to hear from other forum members if they experience the same kinds of "aches and pains" in the days following an orgasm. Does it get easier? Or does the chemical levels in the brain get this messed up every time we ejaculate.
I am hoping that much of my occasionally negative experiences are due to abusing my sexual system for so long. And am hoping that I can establish a new relationship with my sexuality and human-being-ness in the process. I have felt that happening already.
I have no refrained from "touching myself". I have still taken pleasure in enjoying my own unit. I seem to gather that many forum members undergoing a task of celibacy are refraining altogether from touching it. Am I correct? I feel like, for me at least, it is better to get some blood in there. Otherwise I tend to feel that depressed feeling. Any thoughts are welcome! There is too much to talk about... I'm glad I found y'all! Reunitin' and it feels so good... looking forward to future contact.