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Very recently (actually, since my lovemaking experiences last weekend), I have had some thoughts about men and their innate, biological, spiritual need to be fully "accepted" (meaning, inside a welcoming vagina for extended periods of time) and to have that experience be one they can return to again and again with love and trust and with someone who loves all of them.
I'm starting to see porn-viewing as a futile attempt to somehow capture the yin or yoni of a woman when there is no partner present...and yet, it will never be satisfying because there is absolutely no substitute for the actual experience. But they continue to try and try until they have lost the reality of what being with a real woman can be like. And that is how I see all these posts here on the forum are interconnected.
The people who use porn are desperately trying to get to that place of wholeness, but cannot break the already broken cycle.
And how many men are blessed to have the pleasure of a woman who accepts all of them and welcomes them into their bodies with love and trust? I would have to guess there aren't many.
If you did have a partner like that, would you ever leave? I'm thinking probably not. There would be absolutely no reason, because you would have reached nirvana with your partner and there would be no reason to search elsewhere.
Do you think men need acceptance more than women? My experience is that females also need acceptance, but maybe I'm missing something in the female view. Or are you saying that women are in the best position to give a man acceptance?
Is an aspect of karezza, allowing time for the conscious to feel accepted?
Other than plainly being accepting, what can we do to indicate acceptance in a non-sexual way?