Hello it's Rosa again,
Last night my husband and I had a kind of conversation...it went something like this. I'm working if you want a fuck I can leave this work. Then I told him that I didn't want to fuck that I jsut wanted to be together lovingly. He got defensive and said that he didn't want to do any of that energy stuff and that if I didn't want to fuck to just go away. The conversation went on a little more than that. He insisted that I too want to fuck but that I don't admit it because I want to feel superior to him. I told him that I don't need to have an orgasm and that I don't associate penetration with having an orgasm. He said that's the difference between men and women. It's hard to help him see differently when he's so fixed on the idea of orgasm. It's almost like the orgasm defines his masculinity....when I say this I think the same for feminity that not having it defines femininty....I know things aren't so black and white but why such differences and is it really natural or just some idealistic notion that men don't need to have an orgasm. Really there's evidence on both sides and well I guess that means that if the man is really masculine that he will side with the need for orgasm to justify his needs or desires. We separated with me going to bed and he continuing to work. After a while he came into the room woke me up to tell me that he's very angry with me and that he's taken up masturbating. We have been married for about 7 and a half years and masturbation has never been a part. During the last 2 years or so he has been watching porn on the internet. Then he saw a program about sex slavery and decided to not watch anymore. I'm not sure if he is or not now but I do feel it's partly my responsibility that he's taken to masturbation. I really would like to resolve this issue and wonder if there are professionals to help us. I know that he'd never go still I have no-one except you here at this ssite to talk to. My husband is convinced that Karezza is unnatural as it's a thought up practice and that sex doesn't need a manual and that I'm only interested in it to justify my lack of sexual appetite. How can I help him see that this is not true or maybe I have to believe that it is true inorder to survive in this relationship. I have so much to say and no-one to discuss with. So I want to thank anyone who has read my posts and is willing to respond in what ever way they can.
Hello it's Rosa again,