I was talking with my sister the other day about her decision to NOT have her new baby boy circumcised. I had never really given this issue much thought, but after speaking with my sister I immediately went online and read a few articles about the potential psychological, emotional, and sexual damages that can result from this practice.
What I learned really shocked and horrified me, and I found myself wondering if infant circumcision isn't contributing a great deal to our collective relationship disharmony. I think the title of one article I read really sums it up nicely -- "Ending Circumcision: Where Sex and Violence First Meet."
Basically the idea is that the circumcision (which is really partial castration) procedure is so unbearably painful and terrifying to the infant that it inflicts deep and far-reaching psychological and sexual wounds. This early trauma is then, in a sense, the infant's first sexual experience. What a horrible imprint. Is it any wonder so many of our men our drawn to pornography and fantasies in which the female (mother..?) is bound, gagged, victimized, harmed? This mirrors the baby's earliest sexual trauma.
When a baby is circumcised, he is strapped "spread eagle" to a plastic board, completely restrained. Usually the procedure is performed without any anaesthetic. If you are interested, you can easily find (very graphic) photographs of this online. I found the images to be heartbreaking and frightening -- the babies' facial expressions alone are enough of a testament to how barbaric this procedure really is, nevermind the awful pictures of the mutilated genitalia.
It is now my belief that ending circumcision is a critical step in healing the collective gender rift and becoming whole again.
When I brought this up with my partner, he said that it made perfect sense to him. He said that he had always wondered why he in his sexuality felt drawn to the "female victim" theme, since he is a very kind and gentle soul who in reality would never harm a fly.
We owe it to ourselves and especially to our circumcised males to raise awareness about this issue. I do not think we will be able to fully disentangle the threads of sex and violence without taking a much closer, more critical look at how and why we circumcise our baby boys.