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I would like to hear what people think about giving up aspects of their life in order to be happier. It's just a pet peeve of mine....

I would like you to think about the following:

Is anger a part of your life? Have you ever thought about the role of anger in your life?

Can you stop being angry if you wanted to? Do you think there is any merit to anger? Is anger appropriate, ever? Are there situations where anger is necessary?

Do you believe that giving up anger would make you a happier person?

A lot of questions, you can answer one or all if you want. :)

It depends

I'm not generally an angry person, and I am happy, and free from anger most all of the time. But not all days. Sometimes, something gets the best of me. And it's usually my own fault. When that happens, I take a short time-out and maybe do something physical - go for a walk (with fast rhythmic music), vacuuming, flattening boxes that need to be recycled, etc. And then I'm my cheerful self again.

There are times when anger helps us prevent or stop someone from abusing us, or our loved ones. That's when it's useful, when it tells us that we need to *do* something.

However, I do not like being angry, ever.



Your reply was exactly the type of personal information that I am interested in. This is, naturally, not about judging - I just want to hear what other people think about anger, because it is such an important factor in our lives.

May I ask what kind of phenomena can make you angry?

Can you give me concrete examples, either from your life or hypotheticals?

I notice

that what makes me angry is irrelevant. When I'm in balance, I cope better - an order of magnitude better, I would say - with anything. When I'm not, I can get pissed about anything...and invent a reason if one isn't forthcoming. Smile

I much prefer an even keel...or as close as I get. Hence my willingness to employ karezza.

Those old parts of the brain again...

Anger/aggression is one of our old feelings, evolutionary speaking. It is an impulse coming from deep within our brain - when the impulse reaches the parts of our brain where rationality resides, we try to make sense of the anger impulse, and these "explanations" can take more or less relevant forms. Point is, they are always constructed by our own mind.

Just another example of our biology working against our quest for happiness. All those old instincts - desire, lust, anger, etc - they're all just obstacles for people who want happiness.