For those asking about ED - I guess I used to have pre-emptive ED. That is, I knew I would get ED, especially if I knew I'd need to use a condom, so I wouldn't even go for sex, well actually I wouldn't even pursue a girl. Two months ago, however, I did end up somehow in bed with a hot girl and no erection, which I found humiliating and found my way here. Short story - yeah, probably would have had more ED if I hadn't avoided sex through fear of it.
Thanks again so much to Marnia and Gary, and everyone who has shared their stories/thoughts/wisdom!
This is the path.