Has anyone had success with a masturbation schedule? I see Marnia's mentioned it many times, but no one here has said they've really tried it or how it's worked out.
I think I'll give it a try. I just went about 9 days or so without PMO (3rd attempt). This last time was MO only (No porn, only one O, no binge). So, I think I've made good progress from my original average routine of 2 PMO's a day with constant exposure to naked/ provocative women on my computer desktop to going multiple days without PMO. It seems as it's getting easier to handle, but there's still a void I'm always reminded of that comes up from time to time. Especially, when regularly reading this forum as many here already have mates to work with or are actively looking for mates to progress to (or planning to after reboot).
My MO relapse was in bed this morning flipping TV channels through various news stations looking at the anchor women. Do they count as real women? Ha ha. Either way, they're a big step from porn. I could have resisted, but if I were to do it, today was the day as I didn't have anything pressing to get done today (withdrawals were mild after MO). I'll be busy the rest of the week where MO isn't really convenient.
I'm currently in-between-jobs (unemployed) and the stress is high to find a job (and stress is my weakness to giving into PMO). Right now my focus is on wooing, impressing, entertaining hiring managers rather than potential women. Oddly enough, hiring managers and women look for similar qualities, like being confident, assertive, impressive, showing/ proving myself, making 'em think I can perform small miracles every day, etc... Ha ha. Anyway, I'm struggling just to try to convince someone to hire me much less think I can play the field looking for a desirable woman to connect with.
Since this is typically considered a more stressful time than usual for most people, I'm thinkin' I need to be realistic and consider a masturbation schedule of sorts. I'm not sure about set times per say, but probably when the stress starts to build up and I'm on the edge of keeping my sanity. This last MO was really because today was a breather day before I'm busy again all next week. So, I'll experiment and see what works out. Right now my thinking is to go at least several days and MO only (no porn) if/ when the urge arises and dependent on where I stand stress/ sanity-wise.
I'm male, 40, single, unemployed, 3 relapses (17 days, 4 days, 9 days) since 29 Mar 2011
"Which one of you nuts has got any guts." - R.P. McMurphy, One Flew Over The Cuckoo's Nest (1975)