I am now wondering what is the point of physical attraction? in other words, if we pick someone we are attracted to its usually because of the desire for sex or our biology talking. I guess there are social aspects of attraction as well but i'm really starting to wonder because my last partner was extremely attractive to me but her only goal with me was to get me to be the instrument of her pleasure. At some point she got bored with me or something and now to make a long story short, we are not together.
Moving forward, i've met someone i'm not as attracted to but had some fun with and wondering what's going on in my head. This pattern happened to me in the past as well. I went from a love starved addict who cheated on me to a "safe" woman that i did not feel those same feelings with. In the beginning it worked because we had alot in common, children etc but then when there was no more emotional bond i felt cheated that i settled for lack of attraction. So i got involved with my last partner, felt those same "old- and i do mean old" feelings and i felt more alive than i had in awhile. The downfall was she was so sexually motivated that i was paranoid of her cheating on me like the first girl and she didn't help because she needed the attention of going out to clubs with her gf's. I imagine she needed the stimulation of guys hitting on her even if she wasn't going to cheat. I felt used and insecure about that (she constantly needed "space") even though we had minimal time together.
Frankly, although the physical pleasures of sex were good for awhile, the bonding is what i missed. The kissing the erections of just being with her, hearing her talk sweet to me etc were more exciting than the orgasms later on. I could have lived on those facets but not her!
So, number one, i don't know in the USA if there are many open minded woman who would try this without feeling awkward
second what is the point of physical attraction then?. It seems like the more biologically we are attracted the more we want to orgasm.
Also, is there any connection between being in great physical shape and being more sexual/sensual in nature or does it just seem like the two go hand in hand?