Me and me...

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There are moments in our lives that offer such clarity that their truth is undeniable. It is the Ah Ha moments where the puzzle pieces in our mind fit together and things just make sense. It's an understanding that is so deeply rooted that it never escapes us - verses memory which always seems to be hanging on by a thread.

I believe I experienced one of those moments just recently. In fact, it wasn't so much a single moment - but more a series of moments which very much included my dark depression with porn addiction. The realization that I had was simple, yet had, has, and will have many implications on how I see and live my life. To get there I had to go through a personal hell — a hell I have been living for a very very long time and only now starting to awaken from.

In fact, it's not so much something that I have found. More it's that I now know what I am looking for. Me - big M which shouldn't be confused with me -little m. That capitalization makes a big difference - all the difference, in fact.

"me" (small m) has been the dominant player so far in my life. It is my ego. It says, Hi, my name is Ryan. I am....I have....I want...I need....
It has fears, it has doubts, it cares terribly about what others think of him, and frets over the little things in life. My ego is certainly useful in life since it helps me identify who I am and gives me uniqueness, but it has been left to dominate — and when it does, it takes over. It hangs on to the past and fears the future. It reigns in the pleasure/reward centre of my brain and, when left to its own devices, will seek its own ends to no end - for it knows it is of this world and will one day die.

So who is this Me - big M? "Me" is my soul. It lives in the present and strives to make things right. It cares about life - which is you, him, her, dogs, and even cows. It cares about truth and freedom. It SEEKS truth and freedom. My soul is wise and knows the way out of this maze. It knows it is not alone and is connected to all living beings. My soul knows where it came from and desires to lead me back - to the Creator.

Now when we talk of "will", I can see now that we have two wills. One small w and one big W. I can now see more clearly when the little will is speaking - because it is accompanied by fear, pain, and sorrow. My big Will speaks of peace, love, and harmony.

What I know now, and can see quite clearly, is how all of us - in our own ways - are living from these two wills, these two me's. But most importantly, is I am beginning to see them in myself. And I KNOW which voice I will endeavor to listen to.

But I must work hard and practice moment by moment to shed my layers of me that are impermanent and full of suffering...and embrace the soul which is the light of God.

There are many maps - many tools - but I have chosen Yoga to find out who I really am.

I am ready to lay myself (small m) down, trust in My Higher Power, and act in faith. It won't be easy, but I'm pretty darn excited to lead my life the way it was supposed to be lead...with love.

Ah Ha...

Peace,

Ryan

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Ryans Me and me

Good for you Ryan ... going for real joy (experiencing what your Soul wants), I have found leads me in directions where most of my problems will sort themselves out. Be very suspicious of all other authorities ...
Cheers

Sufism

I'm sure there are many different traditions in philosophy and religion that have similar ideas. But your realization, the way you put it, and your use of the concepts God, truth and love almost as synonyms are very reminiscent of Sufi beliefs.

You can find more information here:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sufism

But probably the best sources are Sufi poets themselves, such as Rumi:

As waves upon my head the circling curl,
So in the sacred dance weave ye and whirl.
Dance then, O heart, a whirling circle be.
Burn in this flame - is not the candle He?

In philosophy, the same main idea of a component of the soul between mortal and divine is arguably first discussed in Plato's Symposium, in which Eros is described to be neither mortal, nor divine, but 'daemonic', i.e. a force in between, binding the two. Not so surprisingly early Christian traditions borrow a lot from Plato, albeit more dogmatically. Islamic philosophy, especially Sufism does the same as Plato -- known as "Eflatun"="the spring of thought" to Arabs -- and his works are kept and studied mainly in the East until after the European dark ages and the crusades.

Plato also suggests in Symposium that the proper practice of Eros consists of relationships without lust or sex, and instead centered around the concept of beauty in its divine form. Thus the term "Platonic Love".

Even though popular belief is such that these old ways of thinking were changed by the victory of Freudian thinking with the rise of the bourgeois that embraced it, Freud himself recognized sublimation as a main cause of advancement in civilization and probably never meant to justify its abolishment as "prudishness".

Interesting

We tend to forget how recent Freud was in historical terms. Of course his work will someday be seen from a larger perspective...Reich's, too.

You might find this dissertation interesting: http://www.reuniting.info/wisdom/sources/mary_sharpe_sexuality_and_the_s...

Thanks for sharing your thoughts on the philosophical implications.

The Sufi material is beautiful, but I don't find anything in Islam that hints at avoiding orgasm as a spiritual practice. If anyone does, I would be very interested. Some say this mystery is alluded to in the Kaballah, which evolved in Spain, and was heavily influenced by mystical Islam (supposedly), but I'd like to know more about that, too.