(Mrs. TFB) We used to feel a little awkward and confused if one of us ended conventional sex for whatever reason, but that's because we were focused on ourselves. Now that we practice karezza, we stop because we both intuitively feel it is time to stop. No hard feelings, because we're on the same page. There are no expectations other than giving to one another, so if it ends...it's okay.
(lovers13) I think the beauty of karezza is you can make love with your wife 1) as long as you want, 2) as many times as you want and 3) at any time you want. When to start? Whenever anyone of us want. My wife doesn't refuse me anymore if I want to and I also don't refuse her. But usually we initiate together. Arousal, erection, wetness don't matter anymore. And when to stop? For us we stop when we have stuff to do or get interrupted. There are situations when we just connected for minutes and got interrupted. And there are days when kids were away and we made love all day with few short breaks in the middle. I remember last year when our kids had a picnic in their school on a holiday, we had a picnic in our home.
But for a beginner my advice would be to stop when you feel getting close to the edge. With time when things will get under your control, you will be able to lose track of time and make love for hours. But for that I think one should emphasize more on relaxing side of karezza first.
(Darryl) I remember that first time when I didnt ejaculate and had the thought, "soooo when is this over?" It was a wonderful moment because I realized a whole new world of potential was opening up and sex could become something new, something tranformative, and experience where my ejaculation didn't signal the end. How did we deal with it? I suppose we just let it unfold and go where the feeling took us. It was like finding a new room in your house you didnt know was there with all sorts of stuff in it you never saw before. Couldnt wait to go back and discover more, get to know what I didnt notice last time.