I am new to this site and am very fascinated by the concepts presented here. I would like to read the book, but have a lot of questions to ask because I am very confused. I'm 23 and am comparatively new to sex (I've been having sex for 3 years with the same man.) I just started to have orgasms during sex for about a year and am ecstatic about it. I want to try this form of sex to bring my boyfriend and I closer, but the thought of never having another orgasm again terrifies me, especially after wanting them for so long.
So my question is:
Is one supposed to postpone orgasm indefinitely? Is there any form of "release?" Would I be trading one form of orgasm for another? I know that when I don't orgasm, I feel anxious, not amourous. When I couldn't come, I always felt disappointed and cranky. My bf and I fought a lot, but now that I can come, we are much happier and fight less. So I'm wondering what the difference would be by not coming on purpose and if the answer lies in the way you have sex?