I don't know about anyone else really, but I know when I first started this whole thing, I was brimming with confidence because finally I had found out the source of my turmoil. All I had to do now was fix it right? Fast forward to the first relapse...
What the hell happened? I thought I was going to do this! The process of beating one's self up begins... Self confidence might take a blow in the process which makes everything even more annoying. However, relapse doesn't have to be a bad thing. It might sound weird, but relapse has its purpose in addiction recovery just as abstinence does because that's when you can start to see why the addiction began in the first place. I bumped into the reason for my addiction plenty of times before I noticed it, and even then I still pretended it wasn't there. However, until one can accept this reason and work on fixing it, that person may keep going in the opposite direction which is further into the addictive pattern. For example, my first relationship ended terribly, and there was nothing I could do to reverse it. That's when I started acting out, and the reason was pretty clear from the start that I was just a scared boy. In the addiction process you walk the same path you did before you relapsed if you did indeed relapse, but the catch is that the same traps and pitfalls are there in the same places! There may even be a warning sign saying how someone fell in that hole. That person was you! So are you going to fall into the same trap and pitfall again?
If relapse happens, don't beat yourself up for it because the shame will only strengthen it. Instead, look around for the spot where you fell and the alternate route you could've taken. Sometimes when you fall, you realize just how high you had climbed. At that moment, let yourself be your own inspiration!
Strive for optimal efficiency!