Hello, my boyfriend and I have just started practicing Karezza. We are starting the exchanges tonight, so maybe during this time, this question will be answered. What I'm wondering, is how can a man become erect and a woman become wet without conventional foreplay? We've been practicing non-orgasmic sex, but we still do regular foreplay often (although really cut back on oral sex). I feel that I would not be able to get wet, and ready for intercourse, if I'm not stimulated or "heated up" first. Is there a way around this? I don't want to have intercourse without being wet because it hurts me, but at the same time I want to make sure we are not over-stimulating or heating ourselves up. Any suggestions?