I had a fascinating experience tonight.
I was talking with my counsellor as part of ongoing sessions towards coping with my ex (see here). Tonight was our last session, but we started discussing how guys (in our culture) don't really talk to each other. (Please chime in if you have a different experience, as i expect most of the guys here are more in touch with their feminine energy)
Sure, we can d1ck around and make each other laugh... or superficially support each other with a slap on the back, or a 'plenty of fish' comment.. or just go out and get wasted together when you go through a breakup.
But being honest, we rarely connect with each other.
Anyway, my counsellor proposed that we start a group, where blokes can come to talk about stuff that is important to them, and not while we're boozing.
The only comparison i can think of is AA, but it's not about addiction, it's about discussing the important things in life. Talking about how we live and inspiring each other to be better men. Talking about things we struggled with over the last weeks. Where we can share and not be judged. Get advice off other blokes.
While i have no evidence for this, I actually feel that guys need to hang out with, talk and trust (connect with) other guys as much as they do with girls to feel balanced. The bond that forms between blokes feels very different, but its is calming and powerful.
We talked about everyone taking turns to introduce a topic to the group. I toyed with the idea of Karezza as one.
I have no idea if anyone will come, but im inspired by the idea and i know guys who would sit down with me to talk like that back in Oz.