How to Pick Up Chicks and Guys

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You're welcome~

You're welcome, Telepathy~~


~A heart that is open to appreciate every blessing should always be bigger than the eyes that see what is missing. ~Rumi

I don't know about this.

Hi Rachel,

I appreciate that putting out your message is a good idea. But if you are a butterfly surrounded by a pack of wasps you may want to find a better place to do it.

Durianrider has a pretty safe message to put out. He's into sex and Veganism. Most guys will get the sex piece. Many women will appreciate the veganism. It's not a difficult sell.

Try Consciousness, Love, Healing as primary motivators and I tell you, you've got to be careful who's listening. Most people won't even understand. If you put Love before sex and you are a guy, most people will think you are gay. In this town, that's a recipe for being the target of some pretty intense homophobia. Talk about Consciousness and many will think that that's what happens before you pass out after the 24th beer and after you come to wishing you hadn't. Healing is a real party pooper, particularly if sexual healing is on the agenda.

I've a hat that says, "Love is the Answer" embroidered on it. I'm pretty careful where I wear it. I recently put up posters for a men's group that I helped create almost 3 years ago. Two women friends of mine here wanted men to do more about Love. Since that's exactly what we were/are doing, I created posters announcing our "Men for Love" group (Support group for men seeking to uncover the barriers to Love within themselves). The response was remarkably weak with the exception of one fellow who thought it was a pick up meeting for gay men. (The quotient of moronic homophobes in this town is fairly high obviously, no wonder the women are upset).

You show me some good places with lots of butterflies and I'll do what I can to connect. It's slim pickings in my part of this world.



Arnold, thank you

Thank you for making me aware of your comments in this thread, Arnold.

For me, the message I got from the video was not *what* he was trying to attract, but *how*~~he was not fatalistic, he was not negative, he just put himself out there and let the chips fall where they may, if others don't like it, too bad for them.

That is how I try to live my life, too. It works. You are only trying to find *one* person (if you are searching for a mate), so the fact that 99 other people don't "get" the message doesn't really matter, IMO.

I'm sorry your town is so homophobic, but that is their problem, not yours. Don't let it stop you from being love, showing love, emitting love.

Take care!


~A heart that is open to appreciate every blessing should always be bigger than the eyes that see what is missing. ~Rumi

Thanks Rachel

There is one good thing about this town. It's helped me face some of my worst fears. This town has the most churches per capita of anywhere I know in Canada. It is the least affordable and has the most millionaires per capita too. There are some interesting people here, but the overall climate is incredibly repressive. It is particularly repressive at a sexual level because of the money/church/family values factors. The drug/escort industry is strong here. (It's a resort town). It hasn't stopped me, but it's had me face death a few times. It has similarities to the military environment in which I was raised.

This last escapade of mine posting and emailing posters about our "Men for Love" group was a major "coming out" for me. I was the only one with enough courage in our small group to do it. It put me through hell, but my fear is gone. Now I'm seeing the fear in the women. It's an eye opener for me. They can no longer sit back and complain in my presence.

Hopefully I'll be healthy enough to expand my horizons again and connect with more butterflies soon (and a mate certainly wouldn't hurt Smile ). This website is good for me. At least there are more people who value Love here. Smile

Thanks for writing.


~To all the people, past, present, and future, who have chosen to uncover the barriers to Love within yourselves, hence contributing in your own way to an emerging culture of Consciousness, Love, and Healing: You are the true heroes of this world to me. I touch your feet in gratitude. ~