Since I've been experimenting with withholding of orgasm, I seem to be attracting a number of men who are also interested in exploring this form of lovemaking.
I had a great time last night with a new lover. We both came, but it was all very relaxing because this was not at all our goal and we had about three different sessions of sex in which we stayed on the edge of orgasm for a number of hours. I've never experienced this before the first time being with someone. So I guess the real question, as sood pointed out, is when to stop. If you push the envelope again and again you're bound to have an orgasm. All in all we were really in tune and comfortable with one another. Stating out loud beforehand that it was not necessary for either of us to have an orgasm redireceted the focus to pure enjoyment of the moment.
I probably won't sleep with this guy again eventhough we are sexually compatible and interested in exploring nonorgasmic sex. I find condoms to limit electricity flow and so friction and greater spped is usually used to compensate for the diminished electrical exchange. I find the most emotionally close lovemaking can be very gentle slow movements and deep breathing. It is also this kind of lovemaking that I am most physically responsive to. Using a condom diminishes the ability to do this (with some people more than others, maybe with this guy more than others).
So, I really think that the practice of these ancient techniques is more suited to a committed partnership.
Nevertheless, it was a fun night, very nourishing.