With a lot of saving, I was able to buy this book: Power vs Force by David Hawkins. It presents a linear hierarchy the levels of human consciousness. From low to high, the levels of consciousness are: shame, guilt, apathy, grief, fear, desire, anger, pride, courage, neutrality, willingness, acceptance, reason, love, joy, peace, enlightenment. No one really is stuck in one level, they shift through 3-4 levels throughout the week. What's important to note is which level you shift to when you're feeling pressurized or stressed. For an addict like me, it's the level of desire -- craving, lust, addictions.
This concept has a lot to teach. Now, whenever I sense there's an opportunity to go watch porn or masturbate, I immediately redirect the energy from the sexual system into the hands of frustration and anger, since anger is a step higher than desire. The hierarchy also explains why shame and guilt can be bad for an addict. I suspect that modern West-influenced media (and this applies to most localities where there is a media) is at the level of fear and desire, shifting some times to pride, but no higher than that.
Courage is the first step towards true happiness. It means that you begin to think the world as a challenging and exciting place, not a place you're afraid of or disappointed in. When my mind gets steeped into desire at any time, I try to bring in anger directed towards the beast. Then after the anger has had its say, I then shift to pride. A sort of demo:
Frank gets stressed out after a pathetic performance at school. He comes home and his mind attempts to shut itself off but to tune itself to some engaging pleasurable activity (like staring at the idiot box or checking out the fridge for some junk). He has dropped down to the level of desire.
Desire: aw, this is so bad, I need some refreshment, something lively, something entertaining, something I can slip into to forget about everything else, give me pleasure!
Anger: just shut up, beast. you're full of bullshit. i'm going to thrash you, i'm going to kill you, now. you've put me in trouble for the last 3 years and you've made my life very miserable. i'm not going to let you control me, i'm going to be the one who's going to decide what i want to do and what i don't want to do!
Pride: you, beast, get off. i am such a great person, who's been struggling in this trap for so many years, you're not worthy at all. i am a great person, you're a worthless beast. i will win!
Courage: alright, come on, stand up straight and strong, kill the beast, zoom ahead on the path of strength and power. be energetic and effective, be optimistic and clear, be victorious!