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Hey everyone, first post here.
Today I ended up relapsing for probably the 2nd time since finding this site. Each day I make it to day 5 and I feel like I'm at a roadblock. My whole day today was pretty good but I have absolutely no focus and ended up going into automatic PMO mode as soon as my roommate was out of the room. What can I do to stop this from happening? I want the benefits that come from the reboot but I can't understand how I could make it to day 20 if I cant even make it past day 5. Anyone have any tips to fight the automated brain response?

Try to keep yourself

Try to keep yourself occupied and really wear yourself out. I have the same thing lately. Every time I get to day 7-8 and relapse. In the past I've made it as far as day 30. If you have no energy at all, you won't relapse as easily. So bury yourself in commitments, work, social stuff and work out like crazy. So the next time your roommate leaves, you'll be too tired to relapse.

Good luck man, this is one of the hardest fights a man can face.

Excercise yeah

[quote=Thebeg]Try to keep yourself occupied and really wear yourself out. I have the same thing lately. Every time I get to day 7-8 and relapse. In the past I've made it as far as day 30. If you have no energy at all, you won't relapse as easily. So bury yourself in commitments, work, social stuff and work out like crazy. So the next time your roommate leaves, you'll be too tired to relapse.

Good luck man, this is one of the hardest fights a man can face.[/quote]

Thanks man,

going to start rockclimbing a bit more and maybe start working out, that will probably wear me out enough.
Im in it for the long haul!

Just a thought...

Leave when your roomate leaves. Have a plan to do something or go somewhere else so you are not alone with your computer.

Continuous effort - not strength or intelligence - is the key to unlocking our potential.
Winston Churchill

Just an idea

Hello Golden Fox! Thank you for letting me post on your blog. This is hard stuff we are trying to do. I would go so far as to say that it is like cutting off our arm or leg. Truly life altering. Yes you can do it! :) I believe in you Golden Fox. :)

My idea is with writing:

On a piece of paper with a pen in hand. I write these lines:

"I will not watch pornography." "I will not masturbate." "I will not orgasm."

I like to tell myself clearly what I do not want to do!! Now this is what I do next:

Write down these three lines one after the other. Over and over again. Continue writing as fast as you can! Do not stop and go slow!
Remember to stay in that order!! Do not switch line three for line one. If you make a mistake then start over on the next line with
the proper order. Just continue letting your hand write as fast as the pen can get to the paper.

Eventually you will find that you can let your hand automatically do it but your mind has the words stuck in them as well. Given enough
time. Your mind will say the words that now you have wrote down. It takes mental focus and physical stamina to write on a piece of
paper. The point is to get your mind focused back on what is important to you. I also repeat this exercise again before I go to bed.
I want my brain to really get this stuff stuck inside of it.

Please feel free to say if my idea helps or if it is a bad idea. I sure hope you at least try it and see if it does anything. If not then it
would be great to hear your feedback still. :)

Thank you very much,
Tom PMO Addict

And if he does it enough he

And if he does it enough he will carpel tunnel syndrome and wont able to masturbate. }:) Oh damn, theres the OTHER hand!! :O Now we ARE back to cutting things off. :(

Continuous effort - not strength or intelligence - is the key to unlocking our potential.
Winston Churchill

thanks guys

hey thanks guys, never heard of the cold water technique but that one sounds like it could actually work, despite how hilariously ridiculous it sounds. Ill give it a try next time I get an urge. It's weird how its so ingrained in me. I always considered my self a pretty likeable person, Im just always so tired. I think my PMO definitely is the case. On a good/bad note, I have been a pretty avid pot user over the past two years (sorry not trying to advocate it) but I recently got caught by my university for using it, and I may be put on probation for it. I actually am not too sad, as I feel that my urges are the most uncontrollable when I have been drinking/high, so I am going to embrace it instead. I want to go back to being rebooted in EVERY aspect. I want to be more focused, and I want to have more drive in life to do the little things, like maybe work out and gain some weight for a change. I have a question though, if I am indeed cutting off this other source of dopamine will this lack of release make my body go crazy? For now, I am still smoking cigarrettes (this is a harder addiction to cut for me than PMO, and it is really REALLY hard to do in a college environment where people smoke around me all the time), and I plan on stopping once I go away for winter break and can literally cut myself off from cigarettes. Will my cigarette smoking affect my reboot?

P.S. Will probably start a blog once thanksgiving break comes, lost of studying for finals.

Hilarious can be good

Keeping a sense of humor about all this is good.

The standard wisdom is "one addiction at a time," but they are interrelated because they all noodle with the reward circuitry. So do your best to bring new things into your life to fill the "pleasure holes," so you don't just substitute one addiction for the other.

Some pleasures actually seem to *increase* brain balance. In some cases there's science to support it too. Examples are exercise and daily meditation. More here: http://yourbrainonporn.com/solo-tools

Find what works for you - preferably without resorting to TV, FB or gaming...because those things don't improve brain balance.