How much do passions and goals matter both in finding a partner and maintaining a relationship? This is spoken about all over the place, but it doesn’t seem well substantiated. Perhaps it is code like many things for how much money and thus commoditized value someone earns/has. Goallessness can be negative, but I’m not sure it is inherently so. Few have no goals, but many have goals they don’t want to share. Some people are generalists and don’t intend to become expert or *rise* by delving deeper into any one thing. Seeking a space that enables being multi-passionate is more genuine for those people even if it is seen as odd by whatever is typical these days. It’s hard for more singularly impassioned people to understand multi-passionate people or to allow the passion that is there a space for expression. This seems to add another complication to relationships for me because if I don’t feel understood or feel dismissed, a relationship is dead in the water (obviously not due to singular instances). I’m wondering what I can try to do to not add to the barriers. I’ve tried to be more expressive about interests. This can project negatively because I do so genuinely while people might prefer a sugarcoated reality. I’ve had others comment on that in particular suggesting that I seem like a fool or weird for not trying to appear other than I am. I can also blow people off sometimes if I sense that they are asking about me, but don’t really want to listen to the answer.