No relapse but feeling low

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Feeling depressed. I don't understand how people pair up. I had a lunch date last week. I felt "meh" about it. I got a girls number when I went out to see my friend's band play and she never responded. There were a couple hot, fit girls in my boxing class yesterday and I was on the verge of sobbing whenever I'd have a look at one of them. In the past when I've felt this way I'd explode, break a bunch of things, drink, and masturbate. I've masturbated kind of a lot in the past two days but with no porn and no orgasm. Now I think the urge has passed. Maybe even edging without porn causes some hangover? It's incredibly frustrating to not be able to make a connection, especially when I know that I'm talented, attractive, intelligent, hilarious, and driven. I guess I'm just gonna wait it out. Maybe another two weeks or so is all I need.

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Maybe, the masturbation is

Maybe, the masturbation is causing you "chaser" hangover. I think just edging is a bad idea, you are still playing with dopamine. Don't want to tell you what to do, it's your body/mind, just my two cents worth.

Be well
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Balance

I think that we need balance in how we think and act. Your feelings seem to be getting less extreme and this is good.
May be practice just looking at a girl and not thinking of whether she would be a suitable partner or not? I think this would take the frustration away. Just be with them. I think guys that are looking for something give off a vibe that women detect.
Keep on keeping on. Change things and see what happens. Look at the result honestly then change something else.
All the best.

Quote:I've masturbated kind

[quote]I've masturbated kind of a lot in the past two days but with no porn and no orgasm. Now I think the urge has passed.[/quote]

It has not passed! You've beaten your dingie half to death and it's in rehab. In order to get out of your emotional slump, you have to quit choking the chicken!